Nobody Told Us Adulthood Would Be THIS Ghetto...

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign. What's up? [00:00:18] Speaker B: It's your girl, K.B. [00:00:19] Speaker A: and it's Bracey. [00:00:20] Speaker B: And welcome back to another episode of Girl Don't Whisper podcast. [00:00:26] Speaker A: Why didn't nobody tell us how ghetto being adults will be? [00:00:31] Speaker B: This shit, so damn ghetto. Especially working. That's my worst part about it. [00:00:37] Speaker A: Work 10, 12 hours a day. [00:00:41] Speaker B: Pants sagging, titties sweating. I ain't even got no titties. Like what? Hair all frizzy, all messed up and drunk. Man, I said that's the worst one of it all. Worst part of it all. [00:00:54] Speaker A: But it feel worth it when you get the payday. [00:00:56] Speaker B: But you know what I do like about it? [00:00:57] Speaker A: What? [00:00:58] Speaker B: That freedom. Their freedom. Can't ask for it no more. That's the best thing about it for sure. The freedom. I love me a good freedom. Do whatever I want, say whatever I want to say, go wherever I want to go. [00:01:14] Speaker A: So how was your week? Adulting? [00:01:17] Speaker B: It was all right. I really did too much this week. I was running a lot of errands this week for sure, for sure. I barely got sleep this week. What about you? [00:01:28] Speaker A: It was all right. This was a relaxing week for me. Did a lot of house stuff, but outside of that, just relax. [00:01:45] Speaker B: So [00:01:47] Speaker A: how do you feel about having to work and still balance out life at the same time? [00:01:57] Speaker B: 0 out of 10. I wish. I wish my life was set up to where I ain't had to go to work. I ain't had to have nobody telling me what to do or nothing. But I can still get funds, I can still have money. [00:02:11] Speaker A: You can't run the job if that the case. You need to be an entrepreneur. [00:02:13] Speaker B: But I don't want to work at all. I don't want to have to do that either. I just want like money to fall trees for me to grab it and put it in my pocket and keep on going. Be a rich, no job, keep sleeping, then sleeping. [00:02:27] Speaker A: Cuz that only happen in your dreams. [00:02:30] Speaker B: I don't like working though. And it's hard to work and balance out like your fun time and all that too. Like especially on the weekends, like as a young, as a young ho. I don't think those young hoes should work on the weekend. They should lead that up to the old hoes. [00:02:47] Speaker A: Don't want to work on the weekend either. [00:02:48] Speaker B: They need to. I'll be young and turn. I'm young and turn. And they don't do nothing on the weekends. Old people just sit at home and watch tv. They can do that on the weekdays. So. [00:02:57] Speaker A: So you want them to have the Weekend shift and just work on. [00:03:01] Speaker B: I mean, thank you. That's how it's supposed to be for. Especially for a young hoe like me. Come on now. I'm always out the door. I'm always here for a good time. You can call me on a Monday. [00:03:13] Speaker A: Oh, we know. [00:03:14] Speaker B: I'm saying, what we doing? What's up, what's the move, what we on? But the stress that comes with working, though, and balancing your work life, especially. Especially if you don't like your job for real. [00:03:37] Speaker A: It's draining, ain't it? [00:03:39] Speaker B: Draining. Okay, too draining if you ask me. That's why I tell everybody, though, one thing about a job, it's always gonna be something that you don't like. Something. It's gonna be something that you don't like about your job. But if it's tolerable, stay at that job. Stay at your damn job, Boo. Cause it's hard to get a job out here. [00:03:58] Speaker A: And hey, don't you quit your job before you have another one. [00:04:01] Speaker B: Thank you. That's. That's rule number one, getting a job, y'. [00:04:04] Speaker A: All. [00:04:05] Speaker B: Employment. Don't never quit your job without having another job already. Because you're gonna be without a job for a long time. And you're gonna be broke. And we don't do that broke over here. So keep your broke ass over there and we're gonna keep our jobs over here until we get another. [00:04:19] Speaker A: And a lot of times it don't even be. I can't even say it don't be the job, cuz it depends on the type of job you got. Like today I had this lady, she called, she trying to tell me what my job title is. Ma', am, I didn't know you work here. [00:04:35] Speaker B: See, and that's a lot of times too. It don't even be like the people on the job. It be the outside of people. [00:04:40] Speaker A: Yeah. Cuz for one, I'm by myself, so. I mean, it can't even be the people on the job. It's the people that you deal with. [00:04:48] Speaker B: Yeah, that is true. And work, we coming with all them damn rules. And like, man, how about you give me a raise? Give me a Ray, all these rules you giving me? For every new rule you got, you need to give me a 50 cent raise every time. [00:05:03] Speaker A: Sun jobs don't even give you a 50 cent raise. Probably 28 cent. [00:05:06] Speaker B: Yo, my first raise was 6 cent. [00:05:11] Speaker A: Yo, I know you lying. [00:05:18] Speaker B: $0.06. This is not a joke. [00:05:21] Speaker A: Like, so did you feel like your six cent was well deserved? How much you feel like they should have given you. [00:05:29] Speaker B: I deserve more than six damn s, I tell you that. I know that. I feel like. I feel like for a race, see, I ain't going to store. I used to think raises was like. I thought when you got a raise, your raise would be like 3, 4, 5 dollars. That's what I used to think a raise was back in the days. [00:05:44] Speaker A: Ain't that why you should have stayed in the child's place? Our parent is working hard and we complain about all these simple ST stuff, and they only getting 5 cent raises at like. [00:05:55] Speaker B: Yo, my highest raise I got at My job was 23 cent so far. [00:05:59] Speaker A: My mama was rating and raving about my uncle getting a raise. I said, mama, how much this raise was she talking about? $4. I said, that ain't nothing. She said, yes, it is, girl. [00:06:09] Speaker B: So $4. [00:06:11] Speaker A: Me thinking, that ain't nothing. But in reality, that is something. Now that you say you got a six cent raise. [00:06:17] Speaker B: Six damn s like, come on now. Y' all could have saved that for somebody else. And that's another thing. All this money you got to spend. Shoot, every time I turn around a bill, do I need to get me something to eat? My car needs some gas. Need some groceries. God D rent. Dude, they say you can't catch a break, man. [00:06:37] Speaker A: Damn. Baby start to do. [00:06:39] Speaker B: You know what they say, baby trying to do to do. You know what they say? Just stop turning your ass around. Turn around no more. [00:06:47] Speaker A: But now you see why we should have wait to be adults. [00:06:50] Speaker B: Yeah, I would have definitely waited my turn if I knew it was gonna be like this. [00:06:54] Speaker A: A lot of times I wish, like, I could be this age but still have somebody to take care of me like my mama. [00:06:59] Speaker B: Yeah, but that's like high school, too, because, you know, I used to think high school was gonna be like High school musical, but I used to think it was gonna be all happy go lucky. Like, you get to do what you want to do. You ain't had no problems. [00:07:09] Speaker A: Like, I never thought that. I ain't even waste my time watching, man. [00:07:12] Speaker B: There's nothing like High School musical. Band is nothing musical like High School [00:07:16] Speaker A: musical because you got to learn how to play the instruments right. [00:07:19] Speaker B: And was for the birds, literally. But you know what? You know what I think the most, like, the most, like, peaceful thing about adulthood, though. Like, nobody can't really tell you what to do. [00:07:34] Speaker A: They can't. But they still try to, though. [00:07:36] Speaker B: Yeah, they can try all they want. You try all you want a lot of. But nothing beats a failure. But a try, God damn it. So try all you want, cuz guess what? It don't matter what you say. If I don't want to do it, I ain't doing it. [00:07:48] Speaker A: But at the same time, when people be trying to tell you stuff, even though you grown, you still need to try to listen, though, cuz if it's. [00:07:54] Speaker B: If you feel like it's valuable to your life. No, I'm not going to say that. [00:07:57] Speaker A: A lot of times we do be blindsided and be like, I still think I can do this. I. I still think I. [00:08:03] Speaker B: And we do, but, you know, and [00:08:04] Speaker A: suffer the consequences later. [00:08:06] Speaker B: Thank you. Just let me suffer my consequences. Like, I don't mean no harm. But like you, they always say you got to learn the hard way, like. And sometimes you do. [00:08:14] Speaker A: In the midst of you learning that hard way, you be like, dang, I wish I would have listen. [00:08:18] Speaker B: That's what it got. But guess what? It's okay. I did. Ain't no need for should have, could have, would have not, cuz I didn't. So we going to look at the bigger picture and we just going to suffer the consequences and hope them bitches ain't too bad. Because I. I do not like people to tell me what to do, bro. [00:08:33] Speaker A: I don't either. [00:08:34] Speaker B: Like, I do not like people tell me what to do. Especially if it's like, maybe if it's like, something that you know for a fact. But, like, if you just, like, trying to just tell me what to do, like, oh, go do this or go do that. [00:08:46] Speaker A: No, I feel like the only time you should tell me what to do is if I come to you for advice. Now, if I'm just telling you, if I ask you for advice and I'll just tell you something, don't tell me, yeah, you. [00:08:55] Speaker B: And you can always give me your advice, but I ain't promised to take it. I ain't promised to take that advice for sure. But I appreciate it. I appreciate what you told me and I appreciate your TED Talk. But it ain't promising. I'm gonna do what you say. And it's okay for you to hit me with the I told you so? Cause you did tell me so. So cool. That's fine. You told me and I was wrong. So now let me go about my day and do what I got to do before you make me mad. Yeah, you know I get mad fast. [00:09:25] Speaker A: So now that it come down to that, what did you think that adulthood would be like as a teenager? [00:09:32] Speaker B: Like, I just thought it was all freedom. Peaches and cream, glitter, sparkles. Like, I ain't never really, like, the responsibility that comes with it. And, like, when you get your own stuff, like your own car, your own house, them bills don't stop. Like, one thing. One thing I can always say, though, like, now that I'm older and, like, of age, I see what my mom mean by money does not grow on trees. [00:09:57] Speaker A: For real. But when I was younger, I used to. [00:10:00] Speaker B: Baby, oh, my God. [00:10:02] Speaker A: I used to ask my mom for money. [00:10:03] Speaker B: It takes so long to get money, but it goes so fast. [00:10:08] Speaker A: Like, bro, like, literally, you ever heard somebody say money burn a hole in your pocket? It do. [00:10:13] Speaker B: I mean, a whole down, all down. My damn jeans. [00:10:16] Speaker A: The money that you have left after your bills, you be like, damn, I got this. I can go do this and do that. And that's how you do this, do that. [00:10:23] Speaker B: And another thing about me, I'mma get me a good meal. I don't care. I don't care if it's my last $60 and I want me a seafood boy, guess what? [00:10:32] Speaker A: You going to spend your see, but you can do that, though, cuz you don't got to worry about no rent. [00:10:39] Speaker B: Only thing I got. Car payment, car insurance, phone bill. I'm good in the hood. [00:10:44] Speaker A: You good in the hood. I used to think, like, adulthood. The only thing I used to be happy about is watching my mommy know get dressed for the club. I used to be like, damn, I can't wait to be growing to be doing that. Not knowing that my mom probably going to the club for her last 40. [00:11:02] Speaker B: Just going out for a good time. Yes. She done paid all the bills, all [00:11:07] Speaker A: work, all week stuff. [00:11:09] Speaker B: I got to go outside, have me a time, right? [00:11:13] Speaker A: I used to be so sad and go to Thursday, but you don't want to stay home with my grandma. I want to go with y'. [00:11:18] Speaker B: All. Okay. And the pictures they used to bring back home. [00:11:22] Speaker A: Yes, bro, I need those real bad. [00:11:24] Speaker B: We need to take us some. They need to bring that back for us so we can take us on. So I can bust me a half split because I can't do a hole, so I'm gonna bust a half one. They'll do a headstand, cartwheel, Catch me in the middle while I'm upside down. Yes. But no, for real, though, like, I really. I ain't gonna say adult adulthood is stressful. No, I'm definitely gonna say stressful. I'm not gonna say it's hard, but I'm gonna say it's stressful. [00:11:49] Speaker A: I used to Think it was that hard when I stayed with my mama, but when I move out on my. And got out on my own and realized, like, bills don't stop. You have really, in actuality, you have one free paycheck a month. You gotta pay. Sometimes you got to pay your rent out of this check, gotta pay your light bill out of this check, gotta pay car insurance out of this phone bill, groceries. Like, it don't stop. It always something. [00:12:18] Speaker B: So let me ask you, don't never stop. Out of all the bills that you pay, which bill do you feel is the worst? And which bill do you feel that like, which bill do you feel is the hardest to keep up with? And which bill do you feel like is the easiest to keep up. Keep up with for our age? [00:12:34] Speaker A: Oh, the easiest to keep up with for me is the light bill. I mean, rent ain't all that hard, but it just like, dang, I gotta. I mean, I try to make it where I budget. Take this part out this paycheck, this part out the next paycheck or whatever. [00:12:49] Speaker B: Budgeting. [00:12:50] Speaker A: Yeah. But at the same time, we, like, who want to give up all that money at one time, right? Yeah. [00:12:55] Speaker B: So what, what kind of tip would you give for budgeting? Like, if you, if you was to be like, oh, you need to save and somebody be like, oh, how can I say? What would you say? [00:13:05] Speaker A: Oh, I would tell them, like, for one, the most important thing is you need to take the time and write down everything that you do have, like all yours, your things that require many your necessities. You need to have a list of your necessities, what that take up your wants and your desire, desires or whatever, like your leisure. Yeah. But I will say, like, taking half out of one check and one half out of the other, it's easier because. Well, I don't know about other people, but I don't have no, like, water bill. Only I have is Wi Fi lights, rent. So I mean, it's easier, but if you do it that way. But if you just say, oh, I'mma let this check go free, I ain't going to put putting nothing up towards this or nothing up towards that. It do not work like that. In the end, you gonna be struggling and be like, damn, I'm moving back home. [00:13:58] Speaker B: My mama. [00:13:59] Speaker A: But at the end of the day, your biggest motivation is even if you can go back to your mama house, keep a thought in your mind, like, I can't go back. That gonna motivate you the most to make sure you stay on top of Your bills. [00:14:13] Speaker B: But you know what it probably be for people though? The anxiety and the pressure that they feel. Like when they realize like these bills ain't stopping. Yeah. [00:14:23] Speaker A: What? [00:14:24] Speaker B: Like when they be like I'm about to go move out with my mama. Like it probably the anxiety and the pressure they got built up on them like realizing like dog, like it really ain't nothing else I can do. Like. And then imagine, imagine like when you working like you trying hard, like you trying hard to get your bills paid and they still you still. [00:14:45] Speaker A: But that's when you have to realize either I'm gonna still act like a child and depend on my parents, or be an adult and learn how to budget my money, manage my wants and knees. Like you can't have all these bills and the amount of money that you're making and match up with your bills. But you want to use your other money for going out doing this, doing that. You know you have to. For one, the biggest thing about it is act like you feeling like you can't go back to your parents house and also sacrifice. A lot of people don't want to make sacri sacrifice so that's why they end up back with mama. [00:15:26] Speaker B: What you feel like your biggest sacrifice has been what? [00:15:30] Speaker A: As far as like being able to maintain. I mean outside of me having a partner and help. [00:15:36] Speaker B: But yeah, like say, say if you didn't have help like you had to make. [00:15:42] Speaker A: Oh one thing I always do sacrifices like nails. [00:15:46] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:15:46] Speaker A: Or going out or like another one of my biggest sacrifices is cooking. Like you can't eat out all the time. You know how much like today I ate out today? One meal, $33. Was that smart of me? No, but I deserved it. And I also have to. Another sacrifice I do have to start making is not getting breakfast in the mornings from the restaurants. I have to start meal prepping my breakfast or having stuff just grab and go in the mornings. Cuz some mornings I get carried away and my breakfast be like $10, that's 40, that's $50 a week [00:16:24] Speaker B: at $40 a day, $30 for lunch till for breakfast. You could have had you a whole meal cooked for the night. You could have all these meal. [00:16:35] Speaker A: But then again when it comes down to it, I mean you might as well eat out because you go to the grocery store to try to get stuff to cook that like $60 when you go to the grocery store. [00:16:45] Speaker B: But see the good thing about a grocery store and the meal that you cook though, you got leftovers. So see for people that eat leftover that's good. [00:16:52] Speaker A: But see, I mean, I do eat [00:16:53] Speaker B: leftovers and I don't. [00:16:54] Speaker A: I am a leftover connoisseur. [00:16:55] Speaker B: I don't eat leftovers. So it ain't even that I think they bad, but ew, like, see, you [00:17:02] Speaker A: have a hard time adjusting when you. [00:17:04] Speaker B: Why do I have to eat the food that was cooked yesterday? Like, I don't want to eat this. It probably would have been sitting in the fridge. It's all cold. You know what I hate the most? Like turkey wings and stuff like that? They'd be having that juice at the bottom. So when you put it when it [00:17:18] Speaker A: turned like jelly, bruh. [00:17:19] Speaker B: Ew. [00:17:20] Speaker A: But girl, that'd be good gravy. [00:17:24] Speaker B: You saved that good gravy for the next. Ew, that's so nasty. Like you got to get out of there and all that. But yeah, no, I'm not too fond on the leftovers. But I do feel like cooking meals is cheaper than buying food every day. Cuz like, I feel like if I was to cook me like some pasta or something, I could say that pasta for the day and tomorrow versus me going to go out and get me some pasta. I'm going to eat that tonight. [00:17:47] Speaker A: Yeah, prime example. Like, I didn't have to buy lunch yesterday because I cooked on Sunday. So I had something to eat on my lunch break and I had something to eat when I got home from work. It don't bother me eating the same thing two times in a day. [00:18:03] Speaker B: I would prefer not to. [00:18:04] Speaker A: But I mean, if it's something that I cook that don't bother me, if [00:18:07] Speaker B: I had to, I would. [00:18:09] Speaker A: Like now if one thing that I will not eat that's left over is fried chicken. I cannot stand reheated fried chicken. [00:18:15] Speaker B: I mean, air frying it though. [00:18:16] Speaker A: No, I still don't want it. They have that. [00:18:18] Speaker B: Weird. Just not up your alley, huh? [00:18:23] Speaker A: No, [00:18:25] Speaker B: but see, that's kind of like fish too. [00:18:27] Speaker A: It's like, I don't think anything fried would taste good. Like even down to French fries. I'm not gonna heat up no French fries. [00:18:35] Speaker B: Yeah, they'd be so damn soggy. [00:18:36] Speaker A: And not even soggy. The potato T. [00:18:49] Speaker B: So [00:18:51] Speaker A: with us being adults, how do you feel like you should balance out having time with your friends versus having time with your partner? If you. [00:19:05] Speaker B: I feel like. Yeah, I feel like that's really something. That's for you and your partner to come to terms with. Like, honestly, I really feel like for me, if I was to be the one to make the rules, I would feel like Me and my partner should at least see each other, like, four times a week. If we don't stay together type junk. I'm not one of them people. Like, we gotta see each other every day. Granted, we do have to talk to each other every day, but we don't have to see each other every day because I feel like that kills. Like, that kills the bond that y' all have. And, like, the amount of time that y' all spend together will make y' all fall downhill type joke. And I say that with experience. Like, but. And I would say, like, weekends should be, like, time for your partner because, you know, like, during the week, y' all be working and stuff. Like, you can fit time in to see your friends and stuff during the week, but on the weekend, I feel like that's more of, like, time for yourself type junk. So if you decide to spend your time with your partner, then I feel like it should be on the weekend. But if you decide to spend your time with your friends, I feel like that should be on the weekend. But regardless, I feel like it can be spaced out. [00:20:16] Speaker A: What, spending time with your partner versus your friend. [00:20:18] Speaker B: Yeah. I feel like you don't have to always spend time with your partner. You don't have to always spend time with your friends. Like, it can be balanced out. [00:20:25] Speaker A: I mean, honestly, you have. Well, a lot of people don't count Friday as a weekend. [00:20:30] Speaker B: It's definitely the weekend. [00:20:31] Speaker A: But I do feel like Friday is a weekend day. [00:20:33] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:20:33] Speaker A: So if you do something with your friends on Friday, Saturday need to be for you and your partner. [00:20:39] Speaker B: Right. And you don't even gotta do nothing too big. Like, especially not for me. Like, I'm not one of them people that be like, oh, we gotta go out of town this weekend or we gotta do this. Granted, I would not. I'm not gonna lie. We're gonna go out of town sometimes. But I feel like it's not like a every weekend type of thing. I feel like you don't have to be with me every weekend. Like, if you wanna go out of town with your boys sometimes, cool, go for it. [00:21:02] Speaker A: Yes. And I feel like. [00:21:03] Speaker B: But don't just make it every every weekend thing. Like, you're not about to sit here and call yourself be on me, but you about to be gone every weekend. You about to be going every day. Please, you. [00:21:12] Speaker A: Oh, talk about with your home. Like, with the homeboy. [00:21:14] Speaker B: Kiss it and go be with your homeboy's toodles. Gay ass. Oh, period. [00:21:20] Speaker A: Poo [00:21:23] Speaker B: for all these do love their homeboys, though. I ain't even gonna take it from them, love, they homeboys, bro. Like, they do not play by them gay ass homeboys. [00:21:34] Speaker A: And yeah, but I also feel like when you're in a relationship, you should allow your partner to have space outside of you because if not, that will drain the hell out of the relationship. It wouldn't even be a relationship because you could always feel like you surrounded by your partner. And I feel like you and your partner should have two separate friend groups. Y' all should not start dating in a friend group or start breaking your friend group together because that's going to cause more issues. [00:22:01] Speaker B: Yeah, I say that too. And another thing, and I ain't gonna say that you can't go out with your partner and stuff, but I feel like that it shouldn't be like a all the time thing. Like, you know, like, because I feel like that can kind of cause problems too. Like going out all the time 24 7, we already spending the night with each other and stuff. Like, it's just about that space for me. Like, that space. Like, I gotta have my space. Like, and I ain't saying, like, I don't want to be around my man because I love being around a. I love being up under my. Like, I ain't gonna take that from like. But 247 all the time. It's like, damn. Like, we don't even got time to breathe. We don't even got time to talk to our friends about what the hell we got going on. And granted, it's some stuff you gonna tell. You gonna want to tell your friends [00:22:46] Speaker A: that you ain't gonna want your to know. [00:22:48] Speaker B: Like, I'm sorry, but I feel like [00:22:49] Speaker A: men feel the same way, right? Homeboys about certain stuff that they can't talk to their girlfriend. And I feel like that is totally fine. That do not mean that the relationship is over. It don't mean he don't. Like, you give that man his space. [00:23:02] Speaker B: Right? And need space too. That's one thing I'm big on too. Like, and niggas probably not going to tell you that. And they need space because, you know, one thing we got on men is men always needs to please the lady. So they not going to be like, [00:23:14] Speaker A: oh, I hate that mindset though. Yeah. [00:23:17] Speaker B: Because I mean that she had to be like that. [00:23:19] Speaker A: Men matter just as much as women. I hate that people have this thing in their mind where the woman is more important than a man, which it is. But if you're in a relationship with somebody, that should definitely be equal. [00:23:32] Speaker B: Yeah, I Say I only gonna say it should because it should kind of be equal, though. [00:23:37] Speaker A: Definitely. Because how. How you're going to pour into me and then when it's time for me to pour into you, I don't have nothing to give. That's not how that work. Yeah, but you have to be equally yolked. [00:23:48] Speaker B: Now I say men do they. Men take a lot. So now I said I don't feel like they'll be. They'll tell you, like, I really do not want you to come with me to this place today. Or, you know, like, I really am not trying to sit in the house with you and play these games or build these Legos or put this puzzle together or I don't want to go to the damn park, have no damn picnic. Like, they not going to just tell you that. Especially if you playing the for y'. All. They already. [00:24:11] Speaker A: They not going to tell you, but you're definitely going to feel the energy that they do not want to do it. Yeah. So give him his face. [00:24:19] Speaker B: Your ass probably get on this damn noise nerves. Annoying ass. For real, though. That's what I always say, though. But I always say women are hard to please, but I'm not going to lie. Kind of hard to please too. And I feel like women are more harder to please only because of all the stuff that we require. Require or want, I guess. But hard to please, too. Like, are hard. Like, especially when it comes to, like, gift giving and all that kind of stuff. Like, it's so hard shopping for a man. [00:24:50] Speaker A: No, you talking about gift giving and how women require more. A woman will want you to bring flowers in the house every day of the week. And then when the end of the week come or even the next day after you done brought her flowers, she still ain't got nothing to give you. That's not how that works. [00:25:08] Speaker B: Yeah, that. That's how it be though. For real, though. And that's why I say us women require so much. Like, we want men to do so much and we don't have nothing to give them. Like, and I ain't going to say we don't have nothing to give them. I am will say that because a lot of times, only thing we have to offer is attitude. [00:25:23] Speaker A: Or women think that sex is they [00:25:27] Speaker B: payment that you better keep that bird in red pants. Keep that little ass we we in. They keep that little ass we wee in. They for real. [00:25:38] Speaker A: So that. That would make it in the exchange. [00:25:41] Speaker B: Yeah. We do need to tighten up though. We do. And I feel like us. I feel like our age too. We need to realize that we not grown. Like, I ain't gonna say that we're not grown, but we not like financially grown, stable type, right? [00:25:51] Speaker A: That is true. [00:25:52] Speaker B: We don't have billions of millions and thousands of dollars in our bank account to just be passing out left and right, trying to pay your bills and my bills. But, you know, if you need a little help every now and then, I got you. If you want something to eat, I got you type jump. But we can't be expecting our man to go out here and get us a car or our man to come and pay the whole rent, pay all the bills in the house, and I just buy the groceries. That's not even fair at our age right now, bro. That's not even fair not at this young age. That's what I'm saying. [00:26:19] Speaker A: We thought that's how we thought life was gonna be. [00:26:21] Speaker B: Social media. Yeah. [00:26:23] Speaker A: Social media is a kid. [00:26:24] Speaker B: And social media now. The kids now are fooled by social media too, just like we was. It wasn't as bad with us, but I feel like it's terrible now. It's terrible. My little sister, 13 years old, talking about, oh, I'm the young hoes they be talking about. No, you're not. I'm the young hoes they be talking about. You're a kid. You're a kid. I'm the young hoes they be talking about. And mommy. [00:26:46] Speaker A: And them. [00:26:46] Speaker B: The old hoes. Mommy, the old hoes. I'm the young hoes, you're the kids. Like, what? [00:26:52] Speaker A: So what? What age requirement is the young hoes? [00:26:56] Speaker B: I feel like young hoes, like 18, about 28. [00:27:03] Speaker A: No, baby, 28. You was a old ho. You need to be at home trying to settle down. [00:27:09] Speaker B: 28. I'm still be outside. I hope if it's gone, you could still be outside. [00:27:15] Speaker A: But you need to come tone it down a little bit. [00:27:18] Speaker B: I ain't tone it down. [00:27:18] Speaker A: You don't need to be walking around. I'm a y'. All. [00:27:21] Speaker B: No, I ain't toning this thing down to my boat. 32. [00:27:26] Speaker A: Wish that whole good luck, Charlie. [00:27:31] Speaker B: Not for real, though. Like, as far as having class about yourself, I feel like, you know, like everybody should have that no matter what age you is. So I ain't going to put that in the category. [00:27:41] Speaker A: But you can't necessarily say that though, because everybody mind shift at different ages. It do not matter. [00:27:47] Speaker B: Once you get out of high school, you gotta have some type of class about yourself. Like, you can't just be out here Loud, obnoxious, outgoing and stuff. Like, you gotta just, you know, like, at some point in time, you're gonna be like, okay, I don't live this part. I just need to calm down, chill, grow into my grown lady era, you know? Like. [00:28:10] Speaker A: Yeah, but we can't keep acting the [00:28:12] Speaker B: same way we've been acting when we were 16, 15, 14. We got to grow up. [00:28:17] Speaker A: Yeah. And then when that happen, if they don't want to change, then the friendship just actually se. Like, dies down on its own. Cuz it's like we on the same page no more. [00:28:29] Speaker B: Yeah. And friendships literally die down at the most unexpected time. And the people that you think you'll be friends with forever. That's not how it works. [00:28:43] Speaker A: No, that's not how it works. [00:28:45] Speaker B: You can be so close to somebody, bro. Y' all can know in and out everything about each other. And you just. [00:28:53] Speaker A: Once you. [00:28:53] Speaker B: Once you grow up, bro, y' all just drift apart. It's like, y'. All. [00:28:56] Speaker A: Because everybody end up living different lives. [00:28:59] Speaker B: It's like you don't even know them no more. Type Joan. Like, y' all have this one best friend. Well, this one best friend that I had, and that was my girl. Like, we did everything together. We always been kind of like, black and white, though. Like, we always been, like, complete opposites. Like, she was more so quieter. I was more so a loud girl. Like. But like, we. I thought we would be friends forever. At first, I didn't even like her. I didn't even like the girl. Like, we used to be so mean each other at school, and boom, we end up becoming friends and we. Like. Like when I went to college, like, after we graduated and went off to school and stuff, like, we kind of, like, slowly but drifted apart. And even if you was to ask me today why we drifted apart, I couldn't really tell you. Like. Cause I really don't know. I feel like life just sent us two different ways. Honestly. Like, I really do feel like life just sent us two different ways. Like, even when her birthday come around and stuff, I still tell her happy birthday. Like, there's no love lost for her or nothing. Like. But I just feel like we just grew up and grew apart. [00:29:54] Speaker A: Like, that happens. [00:29:56] Speaker B: And that's so strange. Like, the one person that you thought, like, oh, I'm gonna talk to this girl forever. I'm gonna be friends with her forever. [00:30:03] Speaker A: A lot of times with that, though, like, you don't know, like, what she could have been facing at that time. And she probably feel like you didn't show up for her how you were supposed to, but. [00:30:14] Speaker B: Right. [00:30:15] Speaker A: She probably really was just, you know, suffering in silence, but didn't never know how to approach you about it. So now that she don't know how to approach you, that's gonna create static, right? [00:30:25] Speaker B: Yeah. But I say, just growing up, you really don't know what to expect. Like, and that's another thing with this life joke. Like, it ain't no rules and regulation. Like, we don't got no rulebook to be like, oh, we ain't supposed to do this, or we can't do this, man. You can. [00:30:40] Speaker A: It's just by word of mouth. [00:30:42] Speaker B: Yes. [00:30:43] Speaker A: A lot of times, everybody, like, you have the ability to use your free will. [00:30:47] Speaker B: For sure. [00:30:48] Speaker A: People don't use their free will. Or some people don't use their free will because they're scared of what how other people would think of them or how people would see them. But use your free will, do what you want to do. [00:30:59] Speaker B: One thing about that free will in me, it's gonna be used because I'm gonna use. I'll go use it to the fullest because. No, what you mean that ain't gonna work for me? Like I said, I don't like people telling me what to do anyway. [00:31:12] Speaker A: So. Yeah. And like you said, it's not no rule book on what we should go by. So I feel like, like you said with the social media thing, a lot of times we feel like I should have done this by now or I should have been here by now. And a lot of times we don't look back to think, like, look where I came from. Yeah. [00:31:34] Speaker B: And another thing, look how much I've grown. Another thing too, that I always say about social media and looking back, trying to compare. Nobody never shows you their struggles. Never. That's one thing they not going to show you. People probably don't went through, done bump their head twice and got back up and still fell down again before they got the way they was at. Like, nobody ain't gonna show you the struggles. And I mean, we can't really fault nobody for that because, like, why would you really show me your struggles? Like, why would you really want me to see. Right. Why would you really want me to see the hard part that you went through to get to the good? [00:32:09] Speaker A: Yeah. Like, but you can't compare yourself to what you see on social media because you don't know how. You know that girl that went and got a loan, right, she got. And now she ended. [00:32:19] Speaker B: Oh, baby, how you know she wasn't Using that at the pin cardinal. Because one thing about me, they say at the back, oh, yes, I need to use that. Thank you. Because. Yeah, but. Yeah, that's. That's like, mothers, too. At our age, too. Like, I feel like people be trying to, like, downplay young mothers or downplay baby mamas and stuff. Now. How you feel about that? [00:32:41] Speaker A: I feel like people. Well, with the whole baby mama situation, I see a lot of people saying, y' all let me and trick y' all into being baby mamas. But you never know. Like, a man can say, we go get married. We're gonna do this, we're gonna do that. As soon as that baby come, he changed. And I feel like you shouldn't judge other people based off being a baby mama, because you don't know what goes on behind closed doors. All you see is what happened on social media. So you can't judge a book by its cover or what you see because. Or judge them at all, because you never know when that's gonna be you. [00:33:17] Speaker B: Right. [00:33:17] Speaker A: You don't know when a man might trick you into having a baby and leave you. [00:33:20] Speaker B: Right. And I do that. I do feel like at our age now, like, it's. We're at the age where we're supposed to be the ones having kids now. I feel like we're supposed to be the. We're literally the. The new adults. Yeah, literally. We're literally the new adults. If we're not having kids, I mean no harm. But our mamas and stuff shouldn't be having no more kids. Yeah, we should be the ones having the kids now. [00:33:44] Speaker A: And I feel like. I mean, I had a baby at 22, and that don't bother me because as long as I beat teenage pregnancy, that don't bother me because I had an aunt that told me and my cousin we was gonna be welfare queens. We wouldn't go. We was gonna have sorry baby daddies. And look, I don't got no sorry, sorry baby daddy. And guess what? I don't even qualify for food stamps. [00:34:05] Speaker B: And that's good. That's tea. For real. Cause we young somebody. You don't qualify for food style. That's good. For real. And by young, I mean, like. And by, like, we're the age to be having kids now. Like, I'm 23. She about to be 23, too. So I mean, like. I don't mean like 16, 15. I ain't talking about y'. All. No, I ain't talking about y' all kids. Not young holes. The kids. But we are Definitely at the age now that I feel like we should be the ones having kids. I just feel like. I feel like we. I just felt we in a bad generation. Like, as far as. Like, like, I feel like we in a bad generation with the men, like, and it's hard to find you a good man. Like, it's hard to find you a man that's not gonna cheat on you. It's hard to find you a man that's got something going for himself besides the streets. Like, now I feel like our generation, we more built on like, hustling and like, guns and the young slaying. Yeah, I don't really care for all that. I'm trying to live looking over my shoulder. [00:35:06] Speaker A: Because the men that was in like, our parents generation, those men were. They were like my grandma, she never had to work. Her husband took care of her. She had to pay no bills. All she had to do was take care of her two kids. Two kids is that's it. And have him something hot to eat on table when he get home. [00:35:28] Speaker B: And see that what I said, like, these. Like, I want my man to open my door for me. Like, I want him to be like, oh, boy, I brought you some lunch today. I want me a cute little note of my lunchbox. These ain't doing that no more. They not. I bet you your grandma man was doing that. [00:35:41] Speaker A: My grandma man wasn't making her no lunchbox. She a had no damn job. She was packing him a lunchbox. [00:35:46] Speaker B: Well, damn the damn. [00:35:51] Speaker A: She was taking care of him. Yeah, I mean, well, you know what I mean. [00:35:54] Speaker B: Yeah, right. [00:35:55] Speaker A: Packing his lunch. But, oh, my grandma, she is not the sentimental, lovey dovey type. She probably said, he'll get this damn lunch box. I see you get home. [00:36:06] Speaker B: So I see you get home. Like, yeah, all right, baby. Love you. Yeah. I don't know these the men that we have now. Like, and I ain't got, like, I ain't gonna be the one to be like, I don't want to be no baby mama. [00:36:22] Speaker A: But that do not come with a warning. Like, you never know it. [00:36:25] Speaker B: Don't know what I'm saying. So I'm gonna be the one to say I don't want to have kids. That's what I want to tell you. Well, like, and I ain't even gonna say I don't want to have kids. I really just don't want to be a single parent. Like, I don't want to be a single parent. And I really don't. Like, I know, I know. I'm in a bad generation. I don't know how y' all be looking at it and stuff, but I know I'm in a bad generation, and I. I wouldn't even, like, try to put myself in that situation. Situation. Now, granted, if it was to all boil down to it, then, I mean, that's my decision to do what I want to do. But I wouldn't try to, like. I don't know. Like, it's just too. It's too much stuff that comes with that, I think. It's too much, like. It's too scary. Too many risks. That risk, Autumn, risks you got to take. [00:37:08] Speaker A: For one, bringing the baby in the world is a risk you don't have. People die during child. [00:37:13] Speaker B: Exactly. So you think I might have a sitting on my side playing kid rocks? No, I know. I'm a single parent. [00:37:18] Speaker A: You have to choose wisely. But at the same time, you never know. Like I said, you never know. You never know what? [00:37:25] Speaker B: You never know, bro. You never know. [00:37:27] Speaker A: Saying, we gonna do this, we gonna do that. When you had the baby, he flipped the script, okay? [00:37:30] Speaker B: Y' all ain't doing nothing. Y' all ain't even together no more. Like, like, literally, like. And another thing, too, I say with motherhood, too, like, you don't really be the same, like, how you. Like, like. Do you agree with that, or do you disagree with that? [00:37:46] Speaker A: No, I definitely agree. I was having a talk with my friend the other day about being a mother, and I was telling her, like, even after you have a baby, your whole relationship change. Like, with your partner, everything changed. It's like your life do a whole 180. Like, you don't even know who you are. And I feel like people don't take postpartum as seriously as they should. They think once your six weeks over, postpartum is over. No postpartum lasts the whole year. My baby's 6 months old, and I still go through postpartum. Some days I don't know if I'm going or I'm coming. You don't know what to expect. You can think, everything all good with your baby. You come home one day for work, your baby seat. [00:38:32] Speaker B: How you feel? [00:38:33] Speaker A: You gotta stay home with the baby mama, right? [00:38:35] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:38:35] Speaker A: Cause daddy still got to work, so you got to stay home with a sick baby. Can't do nothing. Well, I don't know about other people. When my baby. I'm pretty sure that's all babies. Nobody can touch him but me. Nobody can't be around him but me. It's just Something that you have to adjust to. And yeah, it's like, oh, my God, I love my baby with everything in me. But sometimes it becomes drama draining. It don't matter how much help you get. People say your support system play a big part in it. I mean, it do. But at the same time, you the one at home with that baby, that's your responsibility for the rest of your life. And I don't believe in it. When my child 18, I'm cutting them off. [00:39:20] Speaker B: Yeah, I wouldn't do that. I wouldn't be one of those. [00:39:23] Speaker A: My parents didn't cut me off when I was 18, so I'm not doing that to him. Yeah, I mean, like, like my grandma said, they own your toes when they smile and on your heart when they young. It never stops. Like, you have to be a parent 24, 7. Even when I go out, my baby's still on my mind. [00:39:41] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:39:42] Speaker A: When I have a free weekend. [00:39:44] Speaker B: Do you feel like. Do you feel like that becoming a mother makes you, like, lose yourself, though? Yes. [00:39:52] Speaker A: Prime example. Like, everybody think when six weeks old, you bounce back, you ready to go out. Yeah, you'll be ready to go out and do this and do that. But it still is a part in the back of your mind. Like, this is not me. Like, everything changed. Your body changed, your mind change. You even lose hair. So you lose a lot of stuff. But at the end of the day, you gain a big blessing, but still a lot to maintain. [00:40:23] Speaker B: Do you ever feel lonely with being a parent? Yeah. [00:40:27] Speaker A: Yes. But I feel like that's a big part of postpartum as well. [00:40:32] Speaker B: I feel like that comes with adulthood, though. Like, the mental and the emotional part of it, like, you feel lonely a lot, like growing up because you have to balance. But I mean, like, sometimes, like, you know, like, with growing up, it's like you don't be trying to fall on your parents so much. Like, you ain't really out here trying to ask nobody for nothing. Like, you're trying to make it seem like you got it all together for everybody. Like, you know, like, you can't really go out there and just like, oh, mama, I need this. Or I'm feeling like this or this, that. And third, I feel like loneliness is, like, really a part of, like, becoming an adult. Like, and even, like, as teenagers, like, you know how you always with your friends, as teenagers, like, with you become an adult, it's like you don't really have that. Have that. You have more alone time than you have with your. Than time with your friends for Real if you growing. [00:41:20] Speaker A: Yeah, but I think it all depends on your childhood too. Because like me and my sister, nine years apart. So the lonely part, that don't bother me. Like, when I was old enough to work and had a car, I would go and take myself on dates and stuff all the time. So I'm used to the loneliness that don't bother me. [00:41:41] Speaker B: I can't. [00:41:42] Speaker A: I mean, like being lonely, like, even as an adult, I can't take it. [00:41:47] Speaker B: I hate being by myself, bro. I hate being lonely. [00:41:49] Speaker A: I hate being my own company because it gave me time to focus, figure out what I need to fix, what I need to do better. [00:41:57] Speaker B: I'd be so bored. I'll be so bored I'll be about to cry. [00:42:00] Speaker A: No, I like being in solitude. I love solitude. Because you have time to focus on you. [00:42:09] Speaker B: Yeah, that is true, though I can't say that that is true. And you can't. You have more. You do have more time to figure out your next move and what you want to do different and stuff like that. But yes, just a thought. By yourself, it's like, oh my God. [00:42:20] Speaker A: You benefit a lot from that, from being in solitude. Oh my God, yes, I love it. [00:42:27] Speaker B: What? [00:42:27] Speaker A: You benefit from what? Being in solitude too. Like I said, you for one. Even when you're in solitude, you figure out a lot about yourself. [00:42:37] Speaker B: Look, do you have a racing mind or a quiet mind? Like growing up, like now. [00:42:43] Speaker A: I can't. [00:42:44] Speaker B: At your age, do you have a racing mind or a quiet mind? [00:42:47] Speaker A: Oh, definitely a racing mind. But postpartum induced the racing mind part. [00:42:54] Speaker B: But I have a racing mind too. And I don't have nothing. [00:42:58] Speaker A: No, my don't stop. I even think in my sleep, girl, that Me too. [00:43:03] Speaker B: That I'm saying, like, my body will be sleep, but my mind will still be going. So like, technically I'd be feeling like I'm not even sleep. For real. Like I'm feeling good, ain't it? I feel like I'm up, but I'm still asleep. Type joint. [00:43:14] Speaker A: Like, and you have a lot of vivid dreams. [00:43:16] Speaker B: Yes. Like, and I say it's so much growing up. Like so much you learned so much that you didn't know. Like, even with driving. Like, bro, like driving not even hard, but the anxiety that comes behind it once you get on that road. And all them other people on the road too. [00:43:34] Speaker A: Man, being in car accidents do that to you. [00:43:36] Speaker B: And it's true. One thing I can always say, my mama told me you ain't just driving for you, but you driving for other People too. That is so true. Cause you never know, bro. Like you never, bro. [00:43:44] Speaker A: No, and you never know. Like, oh, like the last time when those people was working in the middle of the road and it was dark. [00:43:52] Speaker B: Oh yeah, right, yeah. I don't agree with that because you [00:43:56] Speaker A: never know, a drunk driver might come through. Like you never know who getting drunk on a Wednesday night. [00:44:00] Speaker B: Okay, right. Cause I might be one. But hopefully, hopefully I'll stay outta roll while I'm pushing on through though. And another thing too, with our age, I feel like at our young age now too, we ain't, we don't got it all figured out. No, like, and if nobody ain't gonna be the one to say it, I'm gonna be the one to say it. Like we don't have it all figured out. And I'm. And quite frankly, we might not even have it all figured out by two years from now. Like we so young, bro. We have so much more life to live, so much more things to see. Like it's no way life. [00:44:37] Speaker A: I mean you have like, don't have it all the way figured out, but you get stable enough. Like reach a flow state in your life when you really like 30 on up. [00:44:49] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, right, right. [00:44:53] Speaker A: I mean, granted some people do have. It will make it seem like they have it together in their early 20s, but no. [00:45:00] Speaker B: Yeah, but another thing too, growth comes with wisdom. [00:45:05] Speaker A: You have to know something to be able to, you know, do something. [00:45:11] Speaker B: Another thing too about us, so called having it all together at our young age too, is that we also don't, we don't show our silent struggles either. Like without growing up and stuff. We don't really show like what we went through in the olden days or nothing like that, you know, on the bad days. Right. [00:45:30] Speaker A: Yeah. So I mean a lot of people probably feel like, I mean, I'm the type of person if I'm going through something, I'm going to keep that to myself. [00:45:37] Speaker B: To myself, exactly. [00:45:38] Speaker A: I mean I'll write about it, cry about it. I mean, in really I give myself three days. [00:45:43] Speaker B: And another thing I feel too, it ain't really nothing to be out here trying to tell nobody. Like once I tell you what going on, what can you do? You probably about go tell your group chat and then I'm going have to slap the out of you, cuz you want to talk while I'm going through, man, People, people talk. Be for real. Friends fall out every day they gonna say, oh yeah, girl, she was talking about you in our group chat when you Told her that you were so sad because you was about to lose your job. [00:46:08] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. [00:46:10] Speaker B: She said you ain't had no money. You be broke. Like you think I'm about to be okay with you talking about. [00:46:16] Speaker A: That's why you don't never get nobody. [00:46:17] Speaker B: Silent struggle. Exactly. So no, you won't know about what I got going on. You won't know about these struggles over here. No [00:46:26] Speaker A: Three days to cry about it and get it together on the third day. Now, I don't. You can't say that for every situation, but most things. Give yourself three days. [00:46:37] Speaker B: Yeah. Cause some situations do be harder than you know what you expect. Like heartbreaks at our. At our big age too. I ain't gonna story them junks still hurt. But, you know, I feel like friendships hurt worse now for me at our age then relationships. And I feel like that because, like, I've been friends with all of my friends, like, literally ever. Yes. [00:46:59] Speaker A: I don't even have no new friends. [00:47:01] Speaker B: Right. So, like, all the friends that I have, like, we've been friends so long, like, if we was to fall out right now, that's not gonna bring me to the core. I might be crying for months. They'll probably think me and my friends is. Yeah. [00:47:12] Speaker A: Cause when me and my friend. Me and our little thing, man, I [00:47:16] Speaker B: was crying for days. You know what I'm saying? See, I'm crying about my other friends. Got stuff going on. On, you know, I'm crying at me. It's too much. I just. It's too much for me. I can't handle all that, bro. I can't. All that. [00:47:28] Speaker A: I do not. Like when we have a friendship breakup. [00:47:31] Speaker B: Oh, my God. [00:47:32] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:47:32] Speaker B: That's too much. Like, it's too sensitive. Like, it just. It's a spot in my body that I just can't. I don't like for it to hit. Yeah. [00:47:40] Speaker A: And a lot of people choose to say, if she forgave her man for it, she could forgive you for it. But no, that's different. Like, you, my friend, you're supposed to be all right or die. A man gonna do what they want to do. [00:47:55] Speaker B: And I don't mean no harm, but I say this all the time. I don't give a. With my friends. I mean, my friends. I don't give a. My friend's. Because at the end of the day, them probably ain't here to stay. I'll be here with you. I'll be here with you before. I'll be here with you after. Whatever the. That got going on Ain't got to do with us. Like, life goes on, bro. That's one of the biggest lessons I have learned out of my whole life, bro. Life goes on no matter. No matter what you out here doing or who you doing it with, when you doing it, how you doing it. I don't care if it was the biggest mistake of your life. You got to know life still gonna keep going, that clock still gonna keep rolling. You don't got no choice but either get over it or dwell on it. And if it ain't nothing you can do about it, baby, you don't need to dwell on it. You might as well let it go. You might as well let it go. And another one. I always say, too, that a big. A big, big, big lesson that I just learned too with grow while growing up into my adulthood. Always pray. I don't care if you feel like you at the bottom. It ain't no need to pray. Know what I was going to do, how I was going to do it? And that prayer, B. God just came through for me. Like, God came through. [00:49:06] Speaker A: And it'd be when you least expect it, too. [00:49:08] Speaker B: You do it. Definitely do be when you least expect it. And one more. I'm gonna say one more. I'm say one more thing that I. I learned. Do whatever you want to do. You can't. You can't be out here doing stuff for you. Your mama, your daddy, you want you doing this. Cause your auntie say this what you need to do, man, do what you want to do. Like you. It is not gonna work out just because somebody else told you to do it. Like nine times out of 10, that's probably not even what you wanted to do. So now you back at square one once again. When you get done, always do what you want to do. When you graduate high school, if you don't want to go to college, don't go to college because your people telling you they want to waste money. Don't do that. Like, if you don't want to go to the army, don't go to the army because your people telling you that what you need to do, get out here and figure it out on your own. Like, like I said, this junk don't come with no rules. It don't come with like, nothing, nothing, nothing. You literally step out here and you do what you want to do. Like you might fuck up. Cool. Put your big girl pen, big boy panties on. [00:50:09] Speaker A: Slide them. [00:50:10] Speaker B: Joke. Keep on going, life. Go. Keep going. You go keep on rolling. You live to see another day. [00:50:14] Speaker A: You Live to do better. [00:50:15] Speaker B: Like, do whatever you want to do. Because once you listening to other people just because they telling you to do it, you still going to be back at square one, ready to start all over again. Like, that's just. It's just pointless to me. What you think? What's some lessons you learned? Tell them something you done learned. [00:50:30] Speaker A: You know, I didn't learn a lot in this life. Well, not a lot, but I've learned enough. You go fall a couple times, but you learn from falling. You gotta mess up to do better. [00:50:42] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:50:43] Speaker A: And also back to what Kibi said. Don't do it because somebody else telling you to do it. Do it because you want to do it. Do what you want to do and be head strong. If you make a decision, make sure you stand on that decision. To be firm, earned in it. So when this happened or that happened, you know, this is what I chose to do. So you have a way to go and fix it. Yeah. [00:51:07] Speaker B: And if player A don't work and you ain't got no plan B, you [00:51:12] Speaker A: find playing B, C, D, E, F, [00:51:14] Speaker B: N, G, or go to plan A and try to take a different route. But you can always find another plan. Yo, and I tell people all the time, there's always better with anything. There's always a better job, always a better, Always a better place. It's always better. There's always better. So don't ever set yourself up to just be stuck in one spot because you don't got to be there. Especially at our young age. We young. Like, we got a lot of time to keep growing. We got a lot of time to keep going. Ain't no need for us to just sit here knowing we ain't happy and stay in this one spot. Like, if you want to move or you want to change something, do it. I mean, who's to tell you that you can't? Like, life goes on. We live to see another day. We live to do better. Like so. Yeah. [00:51:55] Speaker A: Yep. So that's the end for this segment. We hope you guys enjoy. [00:52:04] Speaker B: Yeah, we might. We may not have been warned about all the things that, you know, we got coming for us, but we gonna figure it out together, though. We gonna figure it out together. And we got time. We got time. We gonna pray and. And hope that we got time to figure it out. So that's all for me. [00:52:21] Speaker A: Yep. And that's all for me. And before we go, y' all follow [00:52:26] Speaker B: us on IG and Tik Tok at, girl, don't whisper and follow me on [00:52:30] Speaker A: IG @KB and me at EXO Bracey. [00:52:34] Speaker B: And before we go, may your standards stay high and your voice stay higher. [00:52:37] Speaker A: And whatever you do this week, say [00:52:39] Speaker B: it with your chest and on your voice. [00:52:41] Speaker A: And remember, girl, don't whisper. Bye.