Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Speaker A: Can you hear me?
All right, I'm ready.
Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of Girl don't whisper. My name is Bryce.
[00:00:14] Speaker B: It's your girl kp.
[00:00:18] Speaker A: So today we'll be discussing. Are you single? Is it a private relationship or is it just playing?
[00:00:25] Speaker B: Which one is it?
[00:00:29] Speaker A: My week was long. Even though it's supposed to be a four day weekend, it felt longer than four days.
Like oh my God.
[00:00:37] Speaker B: Anything interesting?
No.
[00:00:40] Speaker A: My week was just long. Boring, but long.
I a have no excitement this week.
My excitement was being off Monday. That still ain't felt like a long time. Oh my God. Tired is.
How was your week?
[00:00:58] Speaker B: My week was pretty good. I had a long week too this week, but I ain't. I went off Monday. Y' all know how it is when you got that job that never closed.
So I was not off on Monday.
[00:01:09] Speaker A: This is actually my first day. First year being off on holiday, working in retail. You won't be off on holidays either. Not that much. Now listen, Christmas or Thanksgiving facts.
[00:01:18] Speaker B: And see the way I work here, we don't even do holiday pay for Labor Day. So I was just in ages working
[00:01:25] Speaker A: and I Labor Day, I'm doing labor and y' all need to go pay me extra.
[00:01:29] Speaker B: Exactly. Label. Doing label on Labor Day. Come on now, let's get it together.
Y' all ever like talk to somebody for a long time and you know, started seeing each other, spending the night with each other, every night, giving each other gifts, doing to do all that stuff? Still don't want to post. You still don't still in a private relationship, like is it really private?
Are you leaving your options open? Like what's really going on?
[00:01:56] Speaker A: What's really t. It's a situation shield.
[00:02:00] Speaker B: And we don't like those no more. No, we too old for them situationships. You saved them for the next person, please.
[00:02:06] Speaker A: Honestly, at this age you shouldn't even be thinking about the situationship. If you focusing on yourself, then let that be that. But if you're ready to be in a relationship, you need to be in a relationship 100%, not behind just closed doors. Take that girl out on a date. Post that girl because you want to do the same thing for you. Because if she ain't supposed to you, you think she hiding you.
[00:02:25] Speaker B: Exactly. And I 100 agree. Because one thing I can't honestly say, men don't be want to say how they feel, but she ain't. Rocket science out here no more is not rocket science. We all know.
[00:02:38] Speaker A: And if you noticing that that ain't Doing what? What you expecting?
Drop that zero and get you a hero.
[00:02:44] Speaker B: You hear me? Give them do signs and get to going. Thank you.
[00:02:48] Speaker A: But that just brings me to this question. What officially starts the relationship? I feel like you should be asked. It shouldn't be like, oh, well, we was doing this, we was doing that. You should know, we was together.
No, I agree. Bring back chivalry.
I think we should ask me to be your girlfriend.
[00:03:10] Speaker B: Yes. I think we should ask each other, you know? Well, not even each other. Cause I ain't asking no to be my man, but hell no, I definitely
[00:03:17] Speaker A: ain't gonna ask no nigga to marry me either. Y' all killed me with that.
[00:03:21] Speaker B: I was just talking about that.
[00:03:23] Speaker A: Proposing.
[00:03:24] Speaker B: Like who was gonna be the man. Goddamn. Like, y' all wanna work hard.
[00:03:28] Speaker A: Y' all wanna be blue collar women. You wanna take the men out for everything, Then you gonna turn around and propose them. What the hell are you gonna do for you?
[00:03:35] Speaker B: Okay, me and I ain't even gonna start. These men don't even be up to par for me to be getting on my knees asking no niggas to marry
[00:03:41] Speaker A: me for the niggas to do. We already working hard, doing most of the shit on our own anyways. Leave something for the men.
[00:03:49] Speaker B: I do think that men should start back asking girls to be their girlfriend, though.
[00:03:53] Speaker A: I feel like it shouldn't be no. Oh, I assume that we together. No.
[00:03:57] Speaker B: Yeah. Cause I feel like once we, like, start getting comfortable and, you know, we start staying with each other and doing and doing all that good stuff I just named, like, it seem like they just forget about asking you. It's like they want you to just be like, oh, I know that's my nigga, bitch. No, I don't. Cause you probably still doing what you do. Fuck out my face.
[00:04:13] Speaker A: And also now you do not see a lot of dudes, like, being just
[00:04:21] Speaker B: lovey dovey, like romantic.
[00:04:23] Speaker A: Fuck that. When you get mad every bruh, I need my man to be outside in the ring with a boombox.
[00:04:29] Speaker B: Niggas love saying calling females. When they be like. When they be talking to their homeboys or like talking to their homegirls, just people in general. They'll be like, yeah, this got me up. You. Yeah.
[00:04:38] Speaker A: Yes. Men don't be.
[00:04:39] Speaker B: Who the are you?
[00:04:40] Speaker A: Talk about this, Bart, like you want it.
[00:04:42] Speaker B: Okay? And I am the biggest, so I don't give a.
But that brings me to my next question. Do you feel like that you could be in a relationship without. Without a title?
[00:04:53] Speaker A: Be in a relationship without a Title.
[00:04:55] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:04:55] Speaker A: Like, I think people do it every day.
[00:04:57] Speaker B: But do you think we should like be in relationship? Like we should be doing the relationship stuff that we do without a title?
[00:05:04] Speaker A: No, because that just like love bombing.
[00:05:07] Speaker B: Really. So do you feel like the title is like the confirmation that you seal the deal? Yeah, that's what I was trying to say too. Yeah. Yeah, I agree too. I feel like. I feel like if you don't give me that, will you be my girlfriend or some shit like that. I mean, I'm still a free agent.
[00:05:22] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:05:23] Speaker B: I'm still on the market also.
[00:05:24] Speaker A: I honestly don't even be seeing like.
Okay. You know, like asking to be a girlfriend. But you don't even. How I'm gonna know when we celebrating our love? You don't see nothing about anniversaries like that no more.
[00:05:35] Speaker B: Really?
[00:05:35] Speaker A: On what I see about anniversaries, Older people, like people in my parents generation celebrating anniversaries. You don't hardly ever see people in our generation celebrating. They love anniversaries, none of that.
[00:05:47] Speaker B: Yeah. And anniversaries really is not a thing. No more like you never really like you say you never really see nobody be like, oh, today's my anniversary or happy one year or happy two year. And I feel like another thing too. I feel like anniversaries, like, I don't know if people just celebrate them like every five years or every ten years or you know how it go.
[00:06:06] Speaker A: But back in the day, when you not gonna say back in the day, but middle school, high school, every day, every month. Every month. Flippograms.
[00:06:16] Speaker B: Okay. It's our five month anniversary.
Six months and forever to go. You know what going on?
Oh, we used to kill all the filters that they. The filters, the flippograms, like all of that stuff. Dust smashes, Pete, collage tea. The kids will never know about that. The kids will never know about that
[00:06:38] Speaker A: little high school and middle school boyfriend.
[00:06:40] Speaker B: Yes. Like, and then I remember when I was a freshman, we used to. All the freshmen used to go for the seniors. Like.
[00:06:45] Speaker A: Yeah, for the seniors.
[00:06:47] Speaker B: Heck yeah.
[00:06:48] Speaker A: Freshmen.
[00:06:49] Speaker B: We was fresh. Me and we wanted that old me, you know, that me that was already experienced and know what's going on.
[00:06:56] Speaker A: You shouldn't even think about that. You a freshman even trying to get your books. Are you gonna be a super senior stuck in that bitch?
[00:07:02] Speaker B: I try to see what going what Belly ass say what the going. Okay.
[00:07:07] Speaker A: No, but seriously though, how long do
[00:07:09] Speaker B: you think you could be in a private relationship? I guess until you know it start to Get a little suspicious.
[00:07:17] Speaker A: And when we say private. I'm not private. But not saying when people know you're in a relationship, I'm not talking about, oh, your family know we together or people. Somebody randomly catch us out together. Not like that. No. You need to make a statement. This is my woman or this is my man. Don't be. Well, my mom and them know or my friends know. No, the world, everybody. You go out to the club, them bitches in the club don't know.
[00:07:42] Speaker B: Right, Right.
[00:07:43] Speaker A: No.
[00:07:44] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:07:45] Speaker A: So I feel like I at least say three to six months.
Really? After three months, you shouldn't even be allowed in. The waste of time. No more. Like, if you're not seeing any progress and y' all just still humping, are you doing all the giving and they not reciprocating or showing that they want to be in a relationship with you, just go ahead, next, call them.
[00:08:09] Speaker B: Yeah, I feel like one. After six months, that's definitely enough.
[00:08:12] Speaker A: That's. No, three months is enough. I'm putting you on that 90 day. 90 day rule.
[00:08:16] Speaker B: I ain't gonna say three.
[00:08:17] Speaker A: I'm taking that. Jump back and think like a woman.
[00:08:19] Speaker B: I don't want. I. I probably wouldn't want them to post me yet either, because, see, me, you know how. You know how I get those. You know how I get.
[00:08:25] Speaker A: I'm real.
But I'm saying, like, they should know
[00:08:28] Speaker B: that you're with somebody within three months.
[00:08:30] Speaker A: Not necessarily saying that either, but the person should at least be showing that they're being intentional or that they want to be with you. Or say, for instance, okay, they don't want to be with you, but y' all just want to have this whole how can I situation without seeing it that way. But if you feel like they just want to be the person that you call when you drunk and you want something that need to be known, Right?
[00:08:50] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:08:51] Speaker A: It don't need to be misleading. Like, make you think you're gonna be in a relationship with them when you know that you're not or you don't want them. You just want one thing that just need to be put on the table. Really, when we first start talking, that need to be laid out.
[00:09:03] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:09:03] Speaker B: You need to tell me what you want. For real.
[00:09:05] Speaker A: Yeah. Don't even give it three months.
[00:09:07] Speaker B: I agree.
But I do feel like within after three months, you should be posting my arm or something so they should know that you got.
[00:09:13] Speaker A: We should have already been on that
[00:09:14] Speaker B: date or something for sure.
Now, I ain't gonna lie. If we ain't did nothing. If we talking for three months and we ain't went on no date or nothing, I'm not even gonna lie. Your ass is scratched.
Don't even turn your head and look back at me again.
[00:09:27] Speaker A: We ain't even went to the darn
[00:09:30] Speaker B: mall to get A and D. And that's another thing. I feel like we need to. I feel like us as women, we don't need to be giving our shit up to these niggas until they take us on a date. Cause I feel like I told you,
[00:09:40] Speaker A: take it back to thinking like a man. That 90 day rule.
[00:09:43] Speaker B: I feel like, I feel like once you introduce a nigga to something, I ain't gonna lie. My homeboy told me, he told me not to go to no N house for the first link.
And don't give it up on the first link because that's just opening the door for that nigga to know. Like, okay, she don't care about coming over here or she don't care about just us just being at home doing the do or, you know, like, stuff like that. Like. And I totally 100% agree with him. I agree.
[00:10:06] Speaker A: But like, I'm just gonna say this.
Do what I say and not as I do.
[00:10:11] Speaker B: Yes, facts. Because no, like, and then n. It's like they so simple minded, once you. Once you introduce them to something that you coming to their house and you okay with coming to their house, you ain't never going nowhere else. Never.
[00:10:23] Speaker A: Especially if you ain't putting no pressure.
[00:10:25] Speaker B: Right? And that's why I said, and I
[00:10:26] Speaker A: feel like I shouldn't have to say it more than one time. Really.
[00:10:28] Speaker B: Shit, I shouldn't have to say it at all. Nigga, if you, you know what a relationship is, you know what you want.
[00:10:33] Speaker A: No, I'm saying, like, I should mention one time I want to go this place or do that. You should already start planning that one time. When I say I shouldn't have to
[00:10:40] Speaker B: constantly say, and I ain't telling you that we got to go next week, but damn, I hope you keep it in the back of your head just so we go to bench, right? Like, oh, I remember you said you wanted to go here so we can go here this day or, you know, something like that.
[00:10:52] Speaker A: Actually, if you do that, that will show the girl, like, oh, you really care.
[00:10:55] Speaker B: Yes. And that makes, as a female, that makes us feel good too. Like, I know it make me feel good. I like when somebody listen to what I see and remember.
[00:11:02] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:11:02] Speaker B: You might be on to something when
[00:11:03] Speaker A: you do that especially like the simple things. You remember my favorite candy.
[00:11:09] Speaker B: And don't be nobody I like. For real.
You just up yourself on the throat. You just up gave yourself some points, for sure. Cause I needed that.
For real.
I love affection, bro. I love it like when, if you can show me that you paying attention to me and you knowing what I like and remembering stuff about me. Like say you give me some flowers and they be my favorite color. I'm gonna think that's the biggest thing in the world. Literally the biggest thing in the world. So it don't take that much smiling
[00:11:35] Speaker A: from ear to ear.
[00:11:36] Speaker B: Right. But it don't take that little for me either.
[00:11:38] Speaker A: So don't think I'm no cheap thrill.
[00:11:41] Speaker B: Okay. Cause this ain't what that is.
[00:11:42] Speaker A: Because love don't pay the bills.
[00:11:43] Speaker B: Thank you.
But you gotta come correct.
For sure. So they're gonna bring us into our first segment. Whisper it or say it. So we're gonna ask each other some questions and we're going to answer the question rather. When we answer the question, we're gonna say whether we rather whisper our answer or whether we will say that shit out loud. Nine times out of ten, the queen gonna say that shit out loud.
[00:12:07] Speaker A: Yeah.
So have you ever expected loyalty from somebody you never claimed?
[00:12:15] Speaker B: No.
[00:12:15] Speaker A: You know, I'm say no because I'm gonna say that out loud because we never claimed each other. So I expect loyalty.
[00:12:22] Speaker B: Yeah. I can't expect nothing.
[00:12:23] Speaker A: We can't read each other for real.
[00:12:25] Speaker B: Right. I can't even.
No. Have you ever acted single because nobody officially asked you out?
[00:12:32] Speaker A: No.
[00:12:33] Speaker B: Yeah, I ain't never did that either. But I'm gonna whisper it because I'm about to start doing that.
[00:12:37] Speaker A: But I will say if I'm single, then you going to know that I'm single.
[00:12:41] Speaker B: I'm not even going to say that cuz I feel like. See, like I said earlier, I ain't going to lie. I'm going keep it a book. Like I said, I was one of the people laid up every day, every night, doing a dude, getting this gift, getting that gift. And you know, I was not asked to be no girlfriend, but that was still my man to me, you know. But at my big age now I ain't doing that no more. I learned my lesson.
[00:13:03] Speaker A: The reason I would say that, because when I'm in a relationship, I'm all in. When I'm single, then you going to know that I'm single.
[00:13:09] Speaker B: Yeah. So I'd be all in between. I'll be all in. When I'M single too, so it don't matter.
[00:13:14] Speaker A: I just love love.
[00:13:16] Speaker B: I love love. I love love.
[00:13:18] Speaker A: So I'm 50.
[00:13:19] Speaker B: 50. Yeah. I love love.
[00:13:22] Speaker A: Have you ever hitting somebody because you were entertaining other people?
No, I'm go say it because no,
[00:13:32] Speaker B: she don't take it too long to answer. So I'm gonna whisper this because I'm pretty sure I done did some like that because I didn't took too damn long.
[00:13:38] Speaker A: Yeah, because you gotta think about it second. Just go ahead and say. Just go ahead and whisper. Matter of fact, keep your answer to yourself.
[00:13:46] Speaker B: Yeah, that I say. I was just go ahead and.
You know when they say zip your B up, throw my key away?
Hell no. Yes.
[00:13:53] Speaker A: Okay, so this lead me to the next one.
It's the same. Have you ever told somebody you were private when you really just didn't want people to know about you talking to them?
[00:14:02] Speaker B: No, cuz I don't talk to nobody that and I'm going to say this out loud because I don't talk to nobody that I want to. I don't give a damn. Yes.
[00:14:07] Speaker A: I'm not too many people in the world. Especially I ain't going to be talking to those.
[00:14:13] Speaker B: Don't even say it. Don't say it. Don't say it because I know exactly what you about to say. Not today.
Not today.
[00:14:21] Speaker A: No, I'm not finna be talking to nobody that I gotta hide. That's just simple. Yeah, I'm not finna have you thinking you my type and you not.
[00:14:28] Speaker B: Yeah, no, that's not gonna work for me. And like I say, I'm gonna give you.
[00:14:31] Speaker A: Then as soon as somebody see you talking to them, say oh, she ain't got no type. Yeah, she's in the trash.
[00:14:36] Speaker B: Like bro, like just go. Yeah. If I gotta hide you, I just know that you ain't for me. For real. Cause I ain't even to trying.
[00:14:42] Speaker A: Trying to cuz I. I'm proud about what I got. You hear me?
[00:14:45] Speaker B: I just said I love love. You think I'm about to hide you? No, that ain't going to work for the queen. We going have to figure something out. You going have to find you a new new hairdo or I don't know, we going have to spice this junk up for sure.
[00:14:59] Speaker A: I don't want nothing that I got to work on.
[00:15:02] Speaker B: Well, I wouldn't mind building me a man.
Like I take something from. Okay. Oh, never not say that.
[00:15:09] Speaker A: You stop building you a man when you say that. Okay, that's basically saying you would get Somebody like perfect example. Norbert. When Norbert was. Remember when they had took him to that shop and tried to get him autumn clothes, change his hair, change the glass.
[00:15:23] Speaker B: I would have never been able to start with Norbert.
[00:15:25] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying. So you can't say you will build a man.
[00:15:28] Speaker B: I gotta start. I gotta have something that I can start from.
[00:15:30] Speaker A: Oh, you need a strong foundation.
[00:15:31] Speaker B: I need a strong foundation because that was a weak foundation.
[00:15:36] Speaker A: No, no.
[00:15:37] Speaker B: I gotta have something that I can.
Something that.
[00:15:42] Speaker A: No.
[00:15:42] Speaker B: Hey, no. And then imagine just going to sleep every night. Like you gotta go to sleep beside your person every night, wake up.
[00:15:51] Speaker A: Really. Norbert really had the upper hand, though. Cause Rasputin wasn't all that either, now.
[00:15:56] Speaker B: Wasn't. Rasputia had too much going on. She already was. She and all that. She was bad attitude. Attitude man.
Killed that like. Yeah. So Norman was just Norbert just settled because he knew he must be. Couldn't get too much. So that's all.
[00:16:13] Speaker A: Like his daddy say, ugly black one.
[00:16:18] Speaker B: Okay. Have you ever deleted messages before letting somebody see your phone?
[00:16:22] Speaker A: No, I have.
[00:16:23] Speaker B: And I'm gonna say that out loud.
[00:16:25] Speaker A: I'm say it. But no, I haven't, because why, what I'm deleting it for.
[00:16:31] Speaker B: And man, if I know I got something bad and then I know you about to go through my phone, I ain't gonna lie. I'm probably gonna delete it. But that was in my younger days. I ain't did nothing like that recently. I've been on my best behavior recently. Yeah, I don't be with all that ho.
[00:16:41] Speaker A: I don't believe in all that cheating.
[00:16:42] Speaker B: I'm happy with that. Why I say I don't believe in all that whole shit now. I don't do all that shit. Like all that cheating shit. That's the first thing that'll get your ass kicked to the damn curb. Cheating, cheating and lying. Those are my non negotiables. I don't give a damn if you don't.
[00:16:56] Speaker A: Especially if you're lying about something bad like.
[00:16:58] Speaker B: Yeah. And if you don't want to talk to me, I feel like it ain't nothing for you to just tell me that. We all grown here. Just say it, hon.
[00:17:03] Speaker A: Feel like the worst lie that a man can tell you is that he don't have a girlfriend or he don't got no kids and you eventually find.
[00:17:10] Speaker B: Will never tell you about that baby being on the waist. Yes, that's what I never tell you that. They never tell you about that baby Being on the waist.
[00:17:16] Speaker A: Exactly what I was doing down the
[00:17:18] Speaker B: line, you probably done feel this nigga now, this thing, you know, this bitch done posted the baby in the bed and posted his arm or something. Holding the baby like the baby shower. I noticed your arm.
[00:17:28] Speaker A: The baby shower gonna hurt you like the baby shower.
[00:17:32] Speaker B: Yeah. I don't know what to say.
[00:17:33] Speaker A: I think that's the worst lie. Like saying you're not in a relationship or saying you don't have kids, knowing that you have a kid on the way. Or say, for instance, the kids live in a different state and eventually you find out about the kids.
[00:17:42] Speaker B: Right.
[00:17:43] Speaker A: You misled me.
[00:17:44] Speaker B: And that's why I said you gotta be careful with me for the military, too. Because, baby, all the way around the
[00:17:48] Speaker A: world, they live about five, 10 different lives.
[00:17:51] Speaker B: You hear me?
[00:17:51] Speaker A: Ain't even no double life with the military.
[00:17:53] Speaker B: Literally.
Okay. Have you ever found out somebody you were dealing with had a whole nother person?
No. Yeah. I ain't never did that either.
I don't think so.
[00:18:04] Speaker A: I was always on the other end of the stick.
I wasn't getting cheated on.
[00:18:08] Speaker B: That what I was about to say be cheating. But hey, I was never the one that was cheating.
[00:18:15] Speaker A: Next question.
Have you ever been jealous of somebody who technically wasn't your. Yours,
[00:18:29] Speaker B: like, wise?
[00:18:30] Speaker A: Yeah.
Or the other one, you know, he's on the other side, too.
[00:18:34] Speaker B: No.
[00:18:36] Speaker A: Yeah, me either.
[00:18:39] Speaker B: Gonna be jealous of you. That we do. You already. Ain't even gonna work.
[00:18:41] Speaker A: We're not even compatible. Because I'm not even. I.
[00:18:44] Speaker B: And I'm not even no jealous person. So I'm saying me to be jealous is. Yeah. Something wrong with that. Okay, our last question. Our last question before we go into our main topic.
Have you ever said we aren't. We weren't together just to excuse something that you did?
[00:19:00] Speaker A: No. Say it.
[00:19:02] Speaker B: I'm gonna say no, but I'm gonna whisper that because I ain't gonna lie. I want them people. I will hit you with that. We weren't. You can't say nothing about what I got going on.
We is not together.
There ain't no telling what you've been doing. Don't worry about what I'm doing over here. So I don't know. Me personally. I'm gonna say no, but I'm gonna whisper it because.
[00:19:22] Speaker A: Say no, but I' ma say it because, yeah, it shouldn't even be. I shouldn't even have to be doing nothing else if me and you ain't together. If we together.
[00:19:30] Speaker B: I shouldn't even be explaining Myself to you and we ain't together.
[00:19:33] Speaker A: Good day.
[00:19:34] Speaker B: Peace out. Catch you on the flip side.
[00:19:37] Speaker A: Main topic.
When does become, when does talking become a relationship?
[00:19:48] Speaker B: Give you my personal opinion is like you say, when you ask me to be a girlfriend, we can do a lot of stuff. But I feel like I'm not in a relationship with nobody or nobody or nobody ain't in a relationship with me until you ask me to be your girlfriend. Like I feel like we done made it so normal to.
To do relationship things and be in relationships that we're not in, in our generation. Like we need to let up off that. Like I've been saying this. We already give niggas too much leeway. I'm not doing for you if you ain't my. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Like that not even fair. Like. And like I just said once and once you let a know that you comfortable doing something, they not gonna, they just gonna keep doing what you comfortable doing. Like if I, if this know I'm cool with coming to his house, I'm gonna keep coming to his house. That's boring.
I'm tired of being boring anyway.
[00:20:35] Speaker A: Like what we gonna do? Keep drinking and playing card games?
[00:20:38] Speaker B: Okay. Like you really do gotta step outside the box. Like I ain't gonna lie. I don't. I'm tired of doing the same thing.
[00:20:44] Speaker A: Simple.
[00:20:44] Speaker B: We got a picnic at the park.
[00:20:46] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:20:47] Speaker B: Like let's go get some Legos or something. Like dog, it don't even take much.
[00:20:51] Speaker A: The target.
[00:20:53] Speaker B: Like we can go ride at night time with the jams blasting. I would be okay. Like I'm just, I don't want to, I don't want to sit in the house no more. And I'm. And I definitely don't want to sit around on homeboys. Like, no, you saved that for somebody else.
[00:21:08] Speaker A: I just feel like then when your
[00:21:10] Speaker B: homeboy you going to be mad.
[00:21:12] Speaker A: Yeah. I feel like if you taking me seriously, then when I come around your homeboy shouldn't even be no way around.
[00:21:18] Speaker B: You never know.
[00:21:19] Speaker A: Like in the dating stage. But I mean like in the talking stage. But if we already dating, okay, it's cool if we all hang out, cuz it's not. I'm going to have my friends too. It ain't just be me and your homeboys. I just feel like that's weird to have. I don't even want your homeboys around your girlfriend all the time.
[00:21:33] Speaker B: I don't even want to hang around your homeboys if we talking. Like, I ain't Even going to lie. Like, I mean granted, don't get me wrong, if we at the house of your homeboys over there or you know, we going somewhere and your homeboy's gonna be there, cool. But every time I come to you and your homeboys with you, that's a no go for me.
[00:21:47] Speaker A: Yeah, see, and me, when my man, homeboys and friends come over, I disappear. I don't need to be sitting in your face. What am I?
[00:21:54] Speaker B: That what I'm saying. Like, yeah. Do you think that, do you feel like that you can get cheated on in the talking stage though? Like since you know, since you consider y' all talking, do you think like you can really get cheated on?
[00:22:07] Speaker A: I ain't gonna say cheated on, but I definitely feel like your feelings would be hurt if you all in during the talking stage.
If there was no clear.
If he didn't say you my girlfriend, I don't think that's cheating.
You just gonna be hurt.
[00:22:26] Speaker B: I don't know.
Cause like I said 50 though, if we laid up in the bed all the time doing a dude going this place doing this, getting each other gifts and stuff and you still ain't asking to be your girlfriend, but you still to the next ho, you just leaving your options open. And I ain't with all that.
[00:22:42] Speaker A: So.
[00:22:42] Speaker B: So yeah, my feelings definitely gonna be hurt. Yeah, cuz they definitely gonna be hurt.
[00:22:47] Speaker A: He never asked to be asked to be in a relationship.
[00:22:50] Speaker B: I mean, I still feel like that cheating though.
[00:22:52] Speaker A: Yeah, it is to a certain extent. Cuz you could cheat on your friends too, right?
[00:22:55] Speaker B: That why I say I still feel like that cheating. Like cuz I mean it ain't nothing for you to open your mouth and say how you feel like.
And if you already, you know, me
[00:23:04] Speaker A: have a hard time doing it.
[00:23:05] Speaker B: But if you already leading me on with us staying together at nighttime and exchanging gifts and us doing this and doing that, we talking all day every day. You know, I ain't even gonna say go and sleep on the phone. Cause I try not to do that no more my big ass age. But you know, doing stuff like that in general, like I'm gonna expect some type of, you know, something like I feel like you should have at least a little bit of grace to think about my feelings. Like at least a little bit. Like if you know that you out here leaving your options open, you shouldn't even be doing all that with me. I ain't even gonna lie. You shouldn't even be.
[00:23:40] Speaker A: Don't leave me on. Yeah, like why I guess you the main. You the main friend.
[00:23:44] Speaker B: Bump that.
[00:23:45] Speaker A: I don't wanna be no peace.
[00:23:46] Speaker B: I don't wanna be no friend. No peace. Like. Cause you not the girlfriend.
[00:23:50] Speaker A: So what are you, right?
[00:23:52] Speaker B: No, that's not just his main thing. And then that's why I say my feelings already get hurt easy.
So I know I'm gonna be. And I'm already delusional. So now I'm over here thinking that you my man and you got niche thinking you her man too. That ain't fair.
That is not fair.
[00:24:07] Speaker A: Imagine going to your. The person that you talk to the house and you have another woman over there. Then that's definitely bad.
[00:24:15] Speaker B: Like, man, I might tell him.
[00:24:17] Speaker A: I feel like that will lead you to going to jail. Yeah, for sure.
[00:24:21] Speaker B: That's playing in my face for sure.
[00:24:22] Speaker A: Yeah, you.
[00:24:24] Speaker B: I don't care if nobody don't know what we got going on, you know we got going on.
And you gonna invite me over here.
[00:24:32] Speaker A: Just pop up though, like they answering the phone.
[00:24:34] Speaker B: Even worse. That's even worse. Now you done let me on. I'm coming up to where I'm. I'm coming to where I already know because I. You already ain't texting back. So I clearly got to know about this spot. I clearly gotta know about where you be at. And I get there, you got another chick.
[00:24:47] Speaker A: But then I'm about to check y' all ass go flip the script on you. You know what the first.
[00:24:51] Speaker C: But you wrong for popping up.
[00:24:53] Speaker B: How? See, I know you wrong for popping up how?
[00:24:55] Speaker A: I just said that was gonna happen.
[00:24:57] Speaker C: You are wrong for popping.
[00:24:58] Speaker B: We're not together.
[00:24:59] Speaker A: That's gonna be the first thing that come out.
[00:25:02] Speaker C: No, but even if. But even if. Even if we are. Even if we are together, you text before you come. No, you call before.
[00:25:10] Speaker B: What if we are together?
[00:25:12] Speaker C: That's the easiest way to cut you. That's the easy way to get cut off.
[00:25:15] Speaker B: If we are together.
[00:25:16] Speaker C: Yes, you. You call.
[00:25:17] Speaker B: Why should I have to text you or call you before I come?
What are you doing?
[00:25:22] Speaker C: It's called. It's called courtesy.
[00:25:23] Speaker B: What are you doing?
[00:25:24] Speaker C: It's called being considerate.
Like, I would never come to your house without letting you know. I'd be like, hey, yo, I'm on the way.
[00:25:30] Speaker B: I'm not doing that. Especially if.
[00:25:32] Speaker A: Especially if you already answered, then that means I'm bit.
[00:25:38] Speaker C: No. What is it giving you? Tell me what it's giving you.
No, no, no, no. What's giving you Bracey? What's giving you?
[00:25:44] Speaker A: You cheating. You doing something?
[00:25:46] Speaker C: Okay, and what's it giving you?
[00:25:47] Speaker B: I just told you. Assumptions.
[00:25:49] Speaker C: Assumption. Of what?
[00:25:50] Speaker B: I don't know. What you doing over there, say? I ain't going to say.
[00:25:53] Speaker A: You going to lie? One night my boyfriend was answering the phone, so guess what I did? Went to his house. This before we stayed together. I went to his house, bang on that window. And I was about to open back door, but then I would have got hit with breaking the entering. So I bang, bang, bang, bang, bang. So somebody came in the door. And guess what I did. Look around the whole house. Cause why you answering the phone? You ain't that drunk.
[00:26:13] Speaker C: I could be sleep.
[00:26:14] Speaker B: I don't care.
[00:26:15] Speaker C: Hold on.
[00:26:16] Speaker B: You hear your phone ringing?
[00:26:18] Speaker C: Wait, hold on. Now. I could be. I used to have a studio in my house. So I could be in the studio. I could have a client. And I can't answer my car, don't answer my phone when I'm recording.
[00:26:28] Speaker B: I should have known you had a client before you even started.
[00:26:29] Speaker C: No, why? Why should you have known?
[00:26:31] Speaker B: Same reason why you want me in a relationship.
[00:26:33] Speaker A: Same reason why you want me to let you know when I'm on the way.
[00:26:36] Speaker C: No, I don't have. No, you were texting me, hey, I'm on the way. I would text you back. I'm in the recording. I'll be done about whatever time you can come in.
[00:26:43] Speaker B: No, you should. I should have already.
[00:26:46] Speaker A: Communication
[00:26:49] Speaker C: if we're talking or whatever, right? If we. Let's say we talk. Have we talked all day?
[00:26:53] Speaker B: Probably so, yes.
[00:26:55] Speaker C: So if we talk.
So if we've talked.
But if we've talked all day, then of course I would have let you know, hey, today, you know what you're doing today? I got this. I got that. I got this.
You know what I'm saying? So you would have known.
[00:27:06] Speaker B: So I wouldn't pop up at your house while you in the street.
[00:27:08] Speaker C: But here's the difference. This is the difference between women and men.
Women instantly go to. He doing some shit he ain't got no business doing.
[00:27:17] Speaker B: I ain't gonna say that.
[00:27:18] Speaker C: Men, Men instantly go to, oh, shit, something's wrong because we trying to fix it. We trying to make sure everything's okay.
[00:27:26] Speaker B: We go to cheating too, huh? Men go to cheating too.
[00:27:30] Speaker C: Nah, not.
I can't speak for all. I can just speak for the ones I know, right? And instantly to we hope everything's okay.
[00:27:39] Speaker B: I wouldn't say that. I think a nigga cheating if he don't answer the phone. But you doing something.
Yes. I don't know even if you.
[00:27:44] Speaker C: If something involves me not being able to answer the phone right now, it'll
[00:27:47] Speaker B: take two minutes to send a text. I tell people that all the time. It takes two minutes.
[00:27:51] Speaker C: But what if I am? What?
[00:27:52] Speaker B: Okay, your hands is not. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. People text and drive all the time.
[00:27:57] Speaker C: Hold on. You right. What if my phone is in the living room or I was in the shower? Or what if I got a kid and I'm helping him with his homework? My phone is in my bedroom. Okay, well, like, there's so many different.
[00:28:06] Speaker B: Well, when I get there, I see that, and everything will be okay.
[00:28:09] Speaker C: No, no, no, no. It won't be okay with me. With me, it won't be okay. Because the second you pop up, it'll be the last time you come to my house. It'll be the last time we talk.
The last time. I have cut people off before for that.
[00:28:22] Speaker B: If somebody was to tell me that if that was to happen to me and I was to get to their house and they would be mad because I came to their house, first of all, I'm gonna already be suspicious as to why you ma of all for me. For me to come to your house unannounced or unexpected, you had to make me feel like I can do that.
[00:28:36] Speaker C: You.
But that's what I'm saying. But that's what I'm saying. In. In the early stages, we going to find. You going to know that that's one of my boundaries. That's one of my non negotiables. Do not pop up at my house.
[00:28:48] Speaker B: Well, then that's different for you.
[00:28:49] Speaker A: That's adult. That's the adult version of me.
[00:28:51] Speaker B: Yeah. Cuz I ain't.
[00:28:52] Speaker C: That's the adult version. You're adults.
[00:28:54] Speaker B: Yeah, I know, but we young.
[00:28:55] Speaker A: When I was young. I'm 23 now. That was when I was like.
[00:28:58] Speaker C: So you just said that you would do that today?
[00:29:00] Speaker A: No, not today.
[00:29:02] Speaker C: So you wouldn't go. You wouldn't go pop up at nobody house?
[00:29:04] Speaker B: I would. I would.
[00:29:05] Speaker C: You wouldn't go pop up at nobody house?
[00:29:08] Speaker A: No, I'm grown now.
[00:29:10] Speaker B: If you was to get. You.
[00:29:11] Speaker A: You must not know about my popping up at somebody house tour.
[00:29:14] Speaker B: No, for real. You don't need no more. But if you was to get you a new man, like, say you and your man was a breakup, Lord forbid, but you was to get you a new man, and y' all was to just be starting fresh and he was. Y' all in that stage where y' all with each Other all the time doing a dude, all that stuff, this, that. And third, he just. Y' all talking every day, all the time, going to sleep on the phone. So one night he don't call you, or one night he just get off work and he acting weird and he just. Just all of a sudden stop texting you back. You ain't going by his house to see what's going on?
[00:29:42] Speaker A: No, because I know how quick tempered I am now. And I got too much to lose. And I don't know, I don't know this person that well. So you don't know they might call the police on me. Luckily enough last time I ain't got the police call on me. But you don't know what might happen this time. You don't know what type of person this might be. I got too much to lose for that now.
[00:29:55] Speaker B: Well, I'm not the type of person it is, so. Because I'm gonna do my observations and I' ma learn enough and I'm probably still going to your house. I ain't gonna lie.
[00:30:02] Speaker C: Not. Not if it's. Not if it.
If I tell you it's my non negotiable and it's something that I can't, I can't do, I'm gonna tell you
[00:30:11] Speaker B: that my non negotiables is people ignoring me.
[00:30:13] Speaker C: Okay, well then guess what?
We gonna be non negotiated apart.
[00:30:19] Speaker B: Exactly. Yeah.
[00:30:20] Speaker A: Because I ain't gonna lie. You never know. Like, I have, I have this habit of when I get out my car, I leave my phone in the car. Like if I think I'm coming right back out, but I just get to talk.
[00:30:30] Speaker B: People be on their phone all the time. So I'm not about to sit here.
[00:30:33] Speaker A: So you never know.
[00:30:34] Speaker B: But y' all not about to sit here and talk.
[00:30:36] Speaker C: Not all the time.
[00:30:37] Speaker B: Yes, people do, bro.
[00:30:38] Speaker C: Okay? I'm telling you right now, I'm not on my phone all the time.
If it's not business, I'm not on my phone all the time.
[00:30:44] Speaker B: But yo, you still go back to
[00:30:45] Speaker C: that phone, I come back to it. But when I get you, don't be
[00:30:48] Speaker B: away from your phone. But what I'm saying is consecutively.
[00:30:51] Speaker C: Oh, if I'm watching, if I'm. If I'm reading, because I'm into reading. If I'm reading, I have my jazz music playing and my phone is off. My phone is not off, but it's on vibrate off to the side. And depending on who it is, like it got to be my mama or my daddy or like my Kids for me to answer. That's one. The next thing could be if I'm watching a good movie. I'm locked. Like, I. I ain't even. I. I ain't even. I a even paying attention to my
[00:31:18] Speaker A: phone, my non negotiables. This ain't even about a relationship. This is for anybody. If I'm watching tv, do not bother me.
[00:31:26] Speaker C: Yeah, like I'm lost.
[00:31:27] Speaker A: This is time for myself. Let me watch what I want to watch. Just chill and watch the TV. That's what I want to do.
[00:31:34] Speaker C: Hey, K.B. you seem like you a lot, so I could understand how somebody would not answer the phone if they doing something else. Because you need undivided attention.
[00:31:44] Speaker B: No.
[00:31:44] Speaker C: Yes, you do.
[00:31:45] Speaker B: Just tell me that you doing something cool. I'll leave you alone. I ain't gonna lie, Yosh, I'm a lever. I keep telling y' all that I'm a leaver, but I leave.
I leave so much.
[00:31:54] Speaker C: Okay, so. So okay, you leave about little stuff, but you take offense, you ain't gonna
[00:32:01] Speaker A: be able to get married.
[00:32:02] Speaker B: I am gonna get married.
[00:32:03] Speaker A: Not if you leave over the superstar.
[00:32:05] Speaker C: No. I think it's gonna take until she's in her late 30s to get married.
[00:32:08] Speaker B: Hell, I ain't waiting that damn long.
[00:32:10] Speaker C: No, no, I agree. Yeah.
[00:32:11] Speaker B: If I don't get married by the time I'm 35, I ain't getting married, period.
[00:32:14] Speaker C: No, I think it's mid to late 30s.
[00:32:16] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:32:16] Speaker B: By the time.
[00:32:18] Speaker C: No, I'm sorry.
[00:32:19] Speaker A: So Even when you 35, if you getting married, if your man proposes you at 34, you go call out the engagement.
[00:32:24] Speaker B: No, because I ain't 35, but I might be 35.
[00:32:27] Speaker A: So if you propose on your 35th birthday.
[00:32:29] Speaker B: I don't know about that.
[00:32:31] Speaker C: I'm just saying I don't think you're in a place where you could even, like, you can't even think.
[00:32:36] Speaker A: That's a long dirt road.
[00:32:37] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah.
I'm like a long winding road.
[00:32:41] Speaker B: I'm one of the people I don't mind compromising, but I feel like if we gonna compromise, it need to be both ways. Like nobody just sit here and not come to your house. Because you telling me that's your non negotiable. I'm telling you that I don't like to be ignored. Ignoring me, that's not fair.
[00:32:53] Speaker C: Okay, well then. Then that's. That's the. That's. That'll be the compromise. I'm gonna do my best to answer the phone.
[00:32:58] Speaker B: Right.
[00:33:00] Speaker C: But if I can't answer the what if I can't answer the phone?
[00:33:04] Speaker B: If you can't answer the phone, cool. But you better literally can't answer the phone.
[00:33:08] Speaker C: But you coming to my house.
[00:33:10] Speaker B: I ain't gonna listen now, if you just, if you just leave me wondering. Okay, I'm coming to your.
[00:33:16] Speaker C: I know.
[00:33:17] Speaker A: Can we get a better understanding of what you're gonna do when you get there?
[00:33:21] Speaker B: I don't know. I don't know what I'm gonna do. I don't know. I don't know. I can't say what I'm gonna do because I don't know what I'm gonna do.
I don't know.
[00:33:28] Speaker A: It can't be like that. Now when you popping up somebody house, you need to be popping up with a plan. You gonna go in there and make sure everything okay, or you go just
[00:33:35] Speaker B: pull up on some stuff, I might cause rubbish.
[00:33:36] Speaker C: And then like. And I'm in a place now, like the lock on my door has a code.
[00:33:41] Speaker A: Yes, ma'. Am.
[00:33:41] Speaker C: If I, If I'm in the. If we in. If we like that, you're gonna have the code to my door.
[00:33:46] Speaker B: Okay then, so what's the problem for me walking up at your house. Whoa, whoa.
[00:33:50] Speaker A: We just ask you, how you gonna do when you come?
[00:33:52] Speaker C: Relax.
[00:33:52] Speaker B: But you already done gave me the code, so I definitely feel like I
[00:33:55] Speaker C: gave you the code. Right. In case of an emergency. I'm, I'm. I'm not home. Or it could be. Or it could be. Hey, I know you're coming over, but yo, I'm in the shower or whatever. I can't get to the door. Hey, you know, you can answer the door, you know what I'm saying?
I have a kid, a 13 year old, and I might need you to pick him up, grab him, and then bring him to the house, you know what I'm saying? He know he has his own code for the door. But that might be a case where you need the code to get in. Or hell, you, you work, you work overnight and let's say I live close to your job and you feel like you can't make it home. Oh, hey, do you mind if I go. You mind if I go stay at your house while you're at work? No problem. You can go do what you do, but you will have your own code because when we done code deleted. So you ain't gonna have my code.
[00:34:47] Speaker A: I agree.
[00:34:47] Speaker C: So popping up, there should be no need to pop.
[00:34:51] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:34:51] Speaker C: No, there should be no need to pop up. If you know that.
That, if you know that you have access. There's no need for you to pop.
What am I. What am I? Why would I do anything if I know you have access to my house?
[00:35:02] Speaker B: You're just grown, Yosh. I'm just going to say that.
[00:35:04] Speaker A: Yeah, but you know what? That's exactly how my boyfriend is. When me and him first start dealing with each other, he was very, very, very, very trustworthy. When he got his own place, I had access. I could stay while he's not there. So really, in actuality, I didn't have no reason to be popping up, but my mind just playing tricks on me.
[00:35:22] Speaker C: Well, I think. I think women see what they want to see.
[00:35:24] Speaker B: Yeah, I don't, but I'm past that now.
[00:35:27] Speaker A: I be trying to think other stuff
[00:35:28] Speaker B: because you're trying to say basically you're giving me access so I shouldn't feel like nothing going on.
[00:35:31] Speaker C: Because you're right.
[00:35:36] Speaker B: I'm trusting you.
[00:35:36] Speaker A: Don't break the trust to my space.
[00:35:39] Speaker C: I'm giving you access to my space. I got a ring camera. I got cameras in the house. I know when you gonna be there and when you're not gonna be there.
[00:35:45] Speaker A: Why would I.
[00:35:46] Speaker B: You know what I'm gonna be there and what I'm gonna. What I'm gonna be doing.
[00:35:48] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:35:49] Speaker B: What about you?
[00:35:50] Speaker C: What you mean?
[00:35:51] Speaker B: I don't know that?
[00:35:52] Speaker C: How do you not?
[00:35:52] Speaker B: Just because you're giving me access doesn't mean you're not going to do nothing because I'm not there. First of all, you already said that you don't even like people popping up at your house.
[00:35:59] Speaker C: I don't. I don't like people I got popping
[00:36:01] Speaker B: up in my house for me to not be popping up at your house.
[00:36:04] Speaker A: No, but if you have access.
[00:36:06] Speaker C: If you have access to the house, why are you popping up?
[00:36:09] Speaker B: That's basically your way of telling me that I shouldn't be worried about you doing nothing because I got asses.
[00:36:12] Speaker C: Because I trust you enough.
[00:36:15] Speaker B: That's your greedy. That's your way of brainwashing me to think. That's your way of brainwashing me to think that you ain't gonna do nothing crazy. That you're not gonna do nothing because you're giving me all access. That's like me telling. That's like me giving you all my passwords to my social media, telling you that I ain't gonna cheat, but I
[00:36:29] Speaker C: ain't gonna check it. If you did, I wouldn't check it.
[00:36:31] Speaker B: Exactly. You not gonna check it. But what if you do check it and I'm Cheating.
[00:36:34] Speaker C: But I don't.
[00:36:34] Speaker B: But I ain't gave you the password.
[00:36:35] Speaker A: Why would you give them the password if you could go and cheat though?
[00:36:38] Speaker B: To make them think that everything is trustworthy.
[00:36:40] Speaker A: You have no kind of manipulation problems.
[00:36:44] Speaker C: I don't know how you've been saying scarred, but you need to. You need to chill.
[00:36:48] Speaker A: She the one with relax. No, she the one that want to manipulate, cuz. Why you going to give me the password and still turn around and cheat?
[00:36:54] Speaker B: I ain't saying that I would do that.
[00:36:55] Speaker C: Yeah, you would.
[00:36:56] Speaker B: But I expect stuff like that from. For sure.
For sure.
[00:37:03] Speaker A: Talking about you just trying to build trust.
[00:37:04] Speaker B: KB you definitely know y' all real like people do stuff like that. Like you tell protagonist just CU you telling me that I'm out of control, come to your house, that you. That I got to call to your house? Nobody else ain't gonna be over there?
[00:37:17] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:37:18] Speaker A: No, I just feel like what was the purpose of me giving you the information if I know I'm gonna go and do stuff behind your back?
[00:37:23] Speaker B: I just told you what the purpose was.
[00:37:25] Speaker C: So.
[00:37:25] Speaker A: So you got brushing in the back of your mind. You need to get that out of you.
[00:37:30] Speaker B: You trying to brainwash me to think everything gonna be good and your ass going to be. They cheating.
[00:37:34] Speaker C: What?
[00:37:35] Speaker B: But why would I give you the call if we could do that? Cuz you already told me you don't like me to come to your house anyway. So I can't pop up unannounced anyway.
[00:37:41] Speaker C: You can't pop up unannounced?
[00:37:42] Speaker B: Exactly. I can't pop up unannounced anyway.
[00:37:45] Speaker C: Yes. You can't come unannounced.
[00:37:46] Speaker B: You know what? Yo, you one of them. I'll be driving past your.
What the hell this got going on today? He don't want me to come over here.
[00:37:53] Speaker C: I didn't say I didn't want you to come over.
[00:37:55] Speaker A: You just gotta know him.
[00:37:58] Speaker C: You ain't never heard song. I call before I come.
[00:38:01] Speaker B: I ain't calling for I come.
[00:38:02] Speaker C: Just pop up on this at the club drunk.
[00:38:05] Speaker B: And I just forget to call you before I come over.
[00:38:07] Speaker C: You gotta call.
[00:38:09] Speaker B: Why you wanna go there?
[00:38:10] Speaker A: Exactly.
[00:38:11] Speaker B: So I'm ready to go. I'm ready to get there. I'm ready to get there. I ain't worried about.
[00:38:17] Speaker C: All you got to do is send a text. Hey, babe, I'm on the way. All I say is okay.
[00:38:21] Speaker B: Or what if I'm not home? Say, hey, babe, I'm outside my cold, right? What if I'm not get in.
[00:38:27] Speaker C: Yeah, you're right. I'm outside now. When you get in, we gonna have an issue. See because you should have called before you came.
[00:38:33] Speaker B: I don't know, Yosh. I don't know.
[00:38:35] Speaker A: I agree and I feel like that just in general with relationships.
[00:38:39] Speaker C: You got your own place right now. No, you understand when you get your own.
[00:38:42] Speaker A: Thank you.
[00:38:43] Speaker B: I don't think so.
[00:38:44] Speaker C: Yeah, you understand when you get your own. You understand. You understand. You understand.
You understand when people don't pay bills at your house.
[00:38:50] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:38:53] Speaker B: To do it ain't even about the bills at the house though. It's the principle of where we standing in the relationship. Like it's no way. How you about to tell me that I can't pop up at your house. But you. My what?
[00:39:03] Speaker C: Yes, you can't pop up at. I'm telling you you can't pop up at my house.
[00:39:07] Speaker B: I don't know about that.
[00:39:07] Speaker C: That's a non negotiable that we established the first week we started talking about.
[00:39:13] Speaker B: See, we'll have to see about that.
That's something I have to compromise about
[00:39:16] Speaker A: this whole thing that went on a whim.
[00:39:19] Speaker C: Yeah. Cuz y' all ain't got.
[00:39:20] Speaker B: I like when you come in though. Yeah, you give us a little bit of excitement but cuz we be needing that men. But I don't agree. I don't. I barely agree with. And that's K.B.
[00:39:30] Speaker C: how long you. How long you plan on being single? Cuz you ain't.
You ain't getting married in no time.
[00:39:37] Speaker B: Sleep.
[00:39:38] Speaker C: Kb.
[00:39:39] Speaker B: Kb.
[00:39:39] Speaker C: There's no. There's no way.
[00:39:41] Speaker B: I love love. Like I gots to find me some love.
[00:39:43] Speaker C: I think you love the idea of love. But doing the stuff that you need
[00:39:46] Speaker A: to be in love comes with compromise.
[00:39:48] Speaker C: Cause love come with compromise.
[00:39:49] Speaker B: But damn, why the. That's a big ass compromise right there.
[00:39:52] Speaker C: And I mean. But here's the thing. I don't think you've experienced enough at this age that you're at now where you can come to those compromises.
[00:39:59] Speaker A: You're afraid to get married.
[00:40:00] Speaker C: No, you're not. You're not.
[00:40:03] Speaker B: If you got married.
[00:40:04] Speaker C: KB if you got married today, you'd be divorced.
[00:40:06] Speaker B: I'm about bumping my husband tomorrow at the store and we get married February on Valentine's Day.
[00:40:11] Speaker C: You not.
[00:40:12] Speaker A: Guess what they'll be. They'll be divorced by Easter.
[00:40:16] Speaker B: They'll be divorced by Easter.
[00:40:20] Speaker C: Ain't no kb. Shut up, man.
[00:40:22] Speaker B: I don't like though like they. They make me. They. It's. I have no hope for them.
They liars, cheaters, manipulators like KB once
[00:40:32] Speaker C: again, what are you, like 20?
[00:40:33] Speaker B: 23?
[00:40:34] Speaker C: 20? You ain't experienced enough to know.
[00:40:36] Speaker A: 24.
[00:40:37] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah.
[00:40:38] Speaker C: You weren't experienced enough to know.
[00:40:40] Speaker B: Well, I. People chances.
[00:40:42] Speaker A: I think it's different for everybody though, because have you ever been even been in a long term relationship?
[00:40:48] Speaker B: I was with Trey for a long time. Oh, dope.
[00:40:52] Speaker C: Just look at the video and tell me to cut it out. Just look at the video.
[00:40:55] Speaker B: Tell me for a long time too. Like both of those long time.
So, yeah, I don't know. Like, I give people like two weeks. That's it.
[00:41:05] Speaker A: See?
[00:41:06] Speaker B: Two weeks.
[00:41:07] Speaker A: Wrap this up. Thanks for watching another episode of Girl Don't Whisper podcast. See y' all next week.
[00:41:13] Speaker B: Wait, before we go, let me leave y'. All. Let me leave y' all with a message.
Don't let these niggas fool y'.
[00:41:18] Speaker A: All.
[00:41:18] Speaker B: Like you heard. You heard that bs? He was just saying, don't let these niggas fool y'. All. Ladies, make sure y' all steal y' all P's and Q's, okay? Lay low and stay high.
Bye.
